Articles

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, I just want to thank you so much for spreading the important knowledge about the world of sexuality. I have had a progressive upbringing with a mother who was never shy to tell me the in and outs of sex. But your site has given me a more in depth knowledge about how sex “really works” and it’s not all about the penis going into the vagina. I also appreciate encouragement you have for masturbation, as I think no one can ever know your body better than yourself.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 20 years old and I have been doing the whole crossing my legs method of masturbation for a few years now. Like many others I discovered this method completely by accident as a child without even really understanding what I was doing. Climbing the rope in gym or perhaps my history of riding horses made me realize "hey that feels pretty good!"

Hi Betty,

I have a doubt since long and I think you might help me. Almost every time I recieve oral sex my legs start to tremble and it´s kind of never stopping. I mean how can I realize that I have finished? Do I have to stay longer? I always end in telling my partner to stop cause I can't control it.

XOXO, love your page

Dear M,

The trembling usually means you are about to have an orgasm or you've just had one and are experiencing after shocks of pleasure that will continue as long as you are getting good clitoral stimulation.

Recently, I received the following question:

“Dr. Betty, in the book The Multi-orgasmic Woman, it says that the use of a vibrator can desensitize the clitoris so that it might become harder for some women to achieve orgasm by touch or oral. What do you think? It's curious because on that same page, they recommend your book Sex for One which I've underlined for 4 years, but only just found your website recently.”

Hey Betty,

My names A and I'm wondering if masturbating frequently causes any arousal issues for later on. I know it's rumored that it can happen to men but is it the same for women? For example, if I'm enjoying my "happy time", so to speak, will that affect my ability with my boyfriend say a day later?

Much Thanks,
A

Dear A,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 20 years old and I have been doing the whole crossing my legs method of masturbation for a few years now. Like many others I discovered this method completely by accident as a child without even really understanding what I was doing. Climbing the rope in gym or perhaps my history of riding horses made me realize "hey that feels pretty good!"

Hello Betty,

I REALLY help some advice, I'm scared I'll never be in a relationship. My problem has obliterated my self-esteem and I feel so alone.

I'm 20 years old and I have had sex with 6 different guys. It started with this one guy I liked; we had sex two separate times but he couldn't orgasm after hours of trying. I felt so embarrassed and thought he wasn't attracted to me so I freaked out stopped seeing him. After that I began having one night stands.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 59, and I have just started to learn how to have enjoyable sex. I've been plagued all my life with UTIs.

I've been warned to use only water based lubrications or I'll get UTI's, and/or urethritis. When researching G spot orgasms, I read that almond oil is the best lubricant, but again, I have not tried it because of the fear of getting my urethrae clogged, thus getting a UTI.

Can you please explain how these organic oils work with the genitalia and how they will, or will not create a problem.

Dear K,

I am referring to Primary Anorgasmic, which, to my knowledge, is the inability to have an orgasm, ever.

Hello, Dr. Betty.

I'm a 18 year old girl and I really need your advice.

I ''met" this guy on a social network and right away his and mine intentions were strictly sexual, he's 25 and well I really want to have sex with him.. The thing is I'm still a virgin.