How Do I Accept My Post-Birth Vagina?

Hello lovely Betty and Carlin :)
I am 26, a single mother of an almost 9 year old, and I have recently lost around 130 pounds. As much as my "new body" isn't perfect (loose skin galore, stretch marks, saggy boobs etc) that isn't my main concern. The skin around my vaginal opening had been "itchy" (for lack of a better word) for a few weeks. I woke up one night after some quite major cramping and pressure (which I thought maybe was an early period) with blood on my thighs and it just felt "wrong" down there.