My Bodysex Research

During lockdown, I took Bodysex virtual and worked with 400 women in 40 countries. These are my findings crunched by the Kinsey Institute.

From Trauma to Orgasms

Every woman has been sexually abused by the culture. You can move through past trauma and get to pleasure.

Betty's Response to the Vagina Monologues

The first time I saw The Vagina Monologues was in 1996 when it was off, off, off Broadway. Friends of mine who'd seen the play had alerted me that the author and sole performer, Eve Ensler, mentioned my workshops. That evening I sat in a small theater listening to a charming young woman who talked about my Women's Sexuality Workshops with a distorted view of what I'd been doing for over twenty-five years. She called it "The Vagina Workshop." Never in my wildest nightmare would I have ever considered using the word vagina to describe the work I'd been doing.

My Wife Feels Guilty Looking at Porn

Dear Betty,

I love to look at porn. My wife likes to look at times too but feels guilty. We feel like it is a sin, but enjoy it so much. Do you think porn can ruin a marriage? If I look at porn I feel so guilty. I just love my wife and family so much. Sometimes when my wife finds out I look at porn she is so hurt. Why do men struggle with porn so much. I wish I could just not look at it. Do a lot of men struggle with this? -- J

Dear J,

Afraid I'll Fart or Pee if I Orgasm During Sex

Hello,

I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.

When I Orgasm, I Poop A Little!

Dr. Betty-

I really hope you can help because I've never been able to find any info about this or even find someone who believes me. When I orgasm, I poop a little. I don't know if I'm actually pushing without realizing it or just loosening my sphincter, but it happens every time. I don't have any continence issues and go to the bathroom before I get busy, so it's not an issue of nature calling.

How Do You Tell Someone You've Been Treated for an STD?

Hi Dr. Betty,

Earlier this year I discovered bumps on my outer lips. I was told by the nurse practitioner that they were genital warts. She treated them, they went away, and since then I have not had another recurrence even though I have been under immense stress since then due to work/family issues. I have not really wanted to date/have sex with anyone since because I don't want to deal with the conversation of letting someone know if they have sex with me they will be exposed to genital warts.