Yesterday I received an email from Amy Jo, a sister sex educator with the alarming news that Kegel exercises were not beneficial but actually detrimental. What?

Pelvic floor muscle awareness has been a big part of my teaching women about orgasms with me repeating: "Squeeze and release" while my Vaginal Barbell is inside my client's vagina while she stimulates her clitoris with a vibrator. The Barbell was designed as a resistance device for exercising these muscles (it also doubles as a great dildo).

Dear Dr. Betty,

Lately I experience cramps when I reach orgasm which pretty much takes the fun out of my orgasms. The cramps do not appear every time I masturbate but they are really distracting and the satisfaction does not set in as the sensation is not the same. The cramps feel like the ones I have while menstruating (which isn't much fun either) although I am not.

I wonder if you ever heard of any similar cases and have some advice for me.

Thank you so much for everything.

M

Dear M,

Hello Betty,

I'm now 19 and am lucky enough to have been following your work, and have become somewhat of a fan girl.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm one of a few women I know who have rarely been able to experience painless sex. In all my frustration I've seen countless GPs & specialists - they've all given me the same standard (but unhelpful) advice that I need to try other positions, or I need more lubrication. At the moment, I might as well be having sex in a olympic pool of olive oil.

First off… Thank you D&R! A big Thank you to all the bloggers of D&R for helping me become the sexual goddess I “feel” I am today. Me 1st Dammit!

In search on my “lost orgasm”, I stumbled across your website about 3-1/2 years ago and it has changed my life. I am currently 8 months separated from a 16 year marriage, I began to express myself and needs more in the bedroom and he became offended by this, so he constantly
questioned my wants and started with false accusations of infidelity.

Understanding the pelvic floor and your pc muscle is vital to achieving orgasm. I encourage women to engage their pc muscle while they stimulate their clitoris using my Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique.

This is a great YouTube on the structure of the pelvic floor with organs, etc in 3D:

Dear Betty,

I'm in what seems to be a unique situation . My bf says I do things like squeeze and push him out my vagina and it numbs his penis and makes it go down and lose blood flow. Have you heard of this before ? He says this has happened to him before and makes him feel like I'm rejecting him sexually which I think is obsurd of course. Because I have no control of when this happens, or at least don't feel it. He says i need to relax and.

Hello Betty,

I REALLY help some advice, I'm scared I'll never be in a relationship. My problem has obliterated my self-esteem and I feel so alone.

I'm 20 years old and I have had sex with 6 different guys. It started with this one guy I liked; we had sex two separate times but he couldn't orgasm after hours of trying. I felt so embarrassed and thought he wasn't attracted to me so I freaked out stopped seeing him. After that I began having one night stands.