Thank you for sharing your success story with using the Fleshlight sex toy to help your partner get beyond the fast friction hand-job.
Your first contact with your vulva should be with your hands. Then, as you age, including a vibrator can enhance your pleasure.
Step by Step instructions for using your barbell.
You can overstimulate your clitoris with a vibrator but she will heal. Vibrators should be constantly moving - no pushing in on clitty.
Always make it a practice to wash your toys with soap and warm water and dry them.
Even when your natural lubrication returns, I recommend using additional lube because it feels so great.
I think you had a fast come but didn't recognize it, and that's when clitty shuts down to recover after firing off all 8,000 nerve endings.
If you practice edging, building up and pulling back to increase sexual tension, one BIG one is quite enough for most of us.
You have your fingers and hands and a brain to conjure up erotic images.
The amount of lubrication women have or don't have varies tremendously.