Recently, I received the following question:
“Dr. Betty, in the book The Multi-orgasmic Woman, it says that the use of a vibrator can desensitize the clitoris so that it might become harder for some women to achieve orgasm by touch or oral. What do you think? It's curious because on that same page, they recommend your book Sex for One which I've underlined for 4 years, but only just found your website recently.”
Hi Betty!
I'm an eighteen year old male and I will likely be losing my "intercourse virginity" within the next coming months. I've gained so much important information from books and from your website that I'm sure when the time comes it will not be as nerve racking and it'll be a much for enjoyable experience for both of us.
Recently I bought Now Solutions all-natural almond oil and two Sliquid lubricants. My question pertains to what situations each of these lubricants should be used for.
Dear Dr. Betty,
I'm a great fan of yours. At 67, I've learned a lot from you. Too bad you live in NY and I in AZ. I sure would like to have fun with you. My question is when I orgasm with my vibrator, or with my husband, I'm never wet. My husband thinks I should be.
Please enlighten us. Thanks for all your help. O
Dear O,
Dear Dr. Betty
I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.
Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.
What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.
Dear A,
Dear Dr. Betty,
My name's A, and I'm a 21-year old female virgin. For my 21-st B-day three weeks ago, I decided to try something new with my masturbation life and buy myself my first genuine vibrator. After a few days of researching for the best one, I settled for a $40 silicone clitoral vibe and was thrilled to start using it.
Hello!
I am a 17 year old super virgin. I've never made out w a guy or even done anything sexually w one either. However, I do masturbate. I don't think I've ever had an orgasm but I also don't masturbate often. Recently I've been having trouble w the lubrication of my vagina. I never had a problem w getting or staying wet before ever.
Hi, Betty,
I have been using sex toys for many years. I am currently not with a partner. Recently I got more than one uti without having the typical painful uti symptoms. There were no symptoms at all. The most recent uti developed into severe sepsis and I was hospitalized for over a week and lucky to survive. A friend suggested perhaps it could be from a sex toy that somehow retained bacteria.
Now I am really concerned about trying to self-pleasure again. Do you have any suggestions?
E
Dear E,
Dear Dr. Betty
I'm hoping someone can give me advice about this.
Hi Betty,
This is more of a thank-you/feedback email than a question. I wanted to thank you for promoting the use of the Fleshlight (and Eric as well, since I also read some of his stuff about it on your website). I will tell you exactly why.
