Dr. Betty,

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now and most of the time things are going great... except in the bedroom. I have a very healthy sexual appetite and I enjoy everything that sex has to offer but my boyfriend does not seem to see sex in the same way. Just for a background my boyfriend is young (19) and I am the older woman (25). So I have a lot more experience and I know exactly what makes me excited and I can tell he needs some teaching.

When it comes to creating or watching sexual material, we are still debating what is acceptable to view, create or to enjoy. The porn wars rage on while most guys secretly masturbate to what turns them on while too many women want to censor pornography. Most people will agree that sex is a very personal matter, but now that sexual imagery has become so prevalent with internet porn available on our computers 24/7, I’d say like it or not, porn is here to stay.

Dear Betty,

My boyfriend and I live together. He is open that he masturbates to pornography regularly, often after I leave for work in the morning. I understand this as healthy, but I sometimes feel uncomfortable about it, since I feel that it influences the way we have sex, and how he views women---he often wants to come on me, or asks me to "do something" he's seen in a porn, often something humiliating to me. It makes me uncomfortable, but I try to be supportive of his desires, while maintaining my boundaries. However, things recently went too far.

Hi Dr.B!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 18 years old and I suck at writing and explaining myself threw words but I gotta give this letter writing a try. Your the only person who might be able to help me, if you don't know well then... id say im shit out of luck. I'm going to try and make this as quick as possible.

Dear Dr Betty,

I'm a 24 year old male and I have been using pornography and masturbating since I was 13 or 14. It never occurred to me that it was a problem until recently, when a friend sent me a link to this video:

Hi Dr.Betty,

My name is C and I'm 18. I'm wondering how I can get off without the use of porn. I've tried fantasizing but that only gets me so far. After a while I give up. Ever since I started masturbating, I would always use porn to get me off. I'd feel the intense feeling along with the great aftershocks. I know, seems a little ridiculous...using porn nearly every time. But now I have a boyfriend. We have had sex and it was pleasurable but it'd be more pleasurable if I could still get that intense feeling when I masturbate and have an orgasm too.

Hello Betty,

Thank you so much for your help here. It is such a great site for promoting the importance of sexual health and liberation.

hi aunt (dr.) betty,

i'm new to the dodson/ross site here. i came here through the FB fan page. i'd like to comment on the situation regarding ED and porn. i watched gary wilson's ted talk "the great porn experiment" and after denying for some time now, conducting my own experiment, really, i'm going to stop that stuff. jacking off to porn.

Dear Betty,

I have been masturbating since I was about 13 years old (I'm 17 now.) The first time I had an orgasm was with an electric toothbrush as a vibrator. Since then I have gone in phases, trying to masturbate with only my hands, reading porn (in the form of smutty fan fiction), watching porn, using fingers on the inside and outside. I've experimented with lube and I now have a real vibrator (and a real dildo is on the way!) I also have a boyfriend (I identify as bisexual) and we have sex regularly.