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hi aunt (dr.) betty,

i'm new to the dodson/ross site here. i came here through the FB fan page. i'd like to comment on the situation regarding ED and porn. i watched gary wilson's ted talk "the great porn experiment" and after denying for some time now, conducting my own experiment, really, i'm going to stop that stuff. jacking off to porn.

i'm soon to be 60yrs. young and have not had a steady woman in my life for 5 yrs now.i didn't feel the need nor the desire to be with one and discovered recently that i've got more than enough symptoms to say i'm counter-dependent. but solo sex gets me through times when there's no woman available. i'm sacrificing the sex to avoid the relationship. OK, so far? well not for me.

Porn has become an addiction and i know that's what is causing the ED that i've been afflicted with. i wake up hard during the night and/or in the morning, so the mechanics are good. no prostate problems and no guilt due to the masturbation. i've always rubbed one out from time to time, even in previous relationships when the sex was frequent and hot. it's at the point now where i i'm pretty sure i need the porn for arousal. not good.

Recently, i had a fuck friend and would lose the erection during oral and/or penetration. no fun. it's a good thing i've got oral skills or she would have booted me out the door. she always came but i rarely did. expect when i'd masturbate to porn after. alarm bells. gary wilson's talk did it for me. i'm dealing with the counter-dependency with a 12-step program that's helped me with other stuff(not alcohol) thanks for taking the time to read, and any response would be appreciated though not expected

jp xox

Dear JP,

Yup! You got that right and you're doing the best thing by coming off porn. It starts off so harmlessly and then one day, we can't "get in the mood" or ''get it up" so we end up on some XXX site which charges up ye old sex organs and at some point, we get hooked. Your sex organ will appreciate some real time while you use your brain for a hot fantasy. Then functioning with a person will naturally fall into place. I'm rooting for you.

Dr. Betty