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Dear Dr. Betty,

Help. I think I've trained my pelvic muscles to push out instead of in - I can expel one of your barbells easily when I cum but I cannot easily 'stop mid-pee', and now I am peeing when I cough...

I really need a suggestion re: weights or a toy/tool that will help me IDENTIFY and retrain my muscles correctly (I do squirt when I cum, don't know if that is related) there are so many weights and kegel exercisers online, I'm hoping you've got an expert opinion on this.

Thank you so much in advance

N

Dear N,

Hi Dr,

I have been reading a lot of these posts and can somewhat relate to most of what people are saying...however, there are a few differences.

When I was young, I never masturbated, I would sometimes be aroused but didn't know what to do (I guess I was pretty repressed and confused) so the feeling would eventually pass. I cannot remember the exact age I was...but over the past maybe 10-15 years (I'm 26 now) I have never felt particularly aroused. I've had sex, but I cannot actually reach arousal let alone orgasm.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm a 30yr old female living in North America. I've been in a monogamous relationship for almost 3yrs now. We have the most amazing sexual relationship I have ever experienced and as a result we have both been able to openly discuss and explore all of our kinks and fantasies. I've never felt so sexually liberated.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hello, let me start off by saying you are an inspiration and a very talented women. And I desperately need advise.

For a while now my stomach has been turning with adrenalin, excitement, lust and fear. I understand that it is morally wrong to engage in any sexual content with a married man, but both of us are consenting adults. He approached me first and we have continued to flirt back and forth ever since. I have known him for a while before it was sexual and know he is a safe man that would not take advantage of me.

Hello,

I had my first orgasm in elementary school, as I was trying to climb up a rope. I didn't realize what it was at the time but I remember I knew I liked it, and would sneak back and try to climb up it whenever I could to experience that again. I also did this with poles, and then eventually on a door- I would hold the handles and bring my legs up around the door and do it that way.

Hello Betty, I am so very happy to have found your site a few years ago. I have learned a lot!

What is the best way to go about 'fixing' my PC muscle? I have been with the same partner for nearly 15 years and we have had three kids. I am 33, my youngest is six. I have never done anything to help myself along the way, now I'm in panic mode.

Dear Betty,

Dear Dr Betty,

I'm a 24 year old male and I have been using pornography and masturbating since I was 13 or 14. It never occurred to me that it was a problem until recently, when a friend sent me a link to this video:

Hello Dr. Betty,

Before I ask my question, I would like to thank both you and Carlin very deeply for changing a lot of my attitudes on sex, and making it a little less scary and confusing for women like me. I hope you have many more years of doing such a good service to people all around the world.

In 1970 I read an article in Notes from the Second Year, a radical feminist periodical founded by Shulamith Firestone. The article was titled "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm" by Anne Koedt. From the title alone, I knew I had to speak to the woman who wrote it.