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It's been more than a year since I first messaged you... With a few questions about never have had an orgasm. I am almost 35 now.

I have dedicated hundreds of hours to myself and masturbating since then. I bought a barbell and the fabulous magic wand. I have read all your website, your books, DVDs...

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, I just want to thank you so much for spreading the important knowledge about the world of sexuality. I have had a progressive upbringing with a mother who was never shy to tell me the in and outs of sex. But your site has given me a more in depth knowledge about how sex “really works” and it’s not all about the penis going into the vagina. I also appreciate encouragement you have for masturbation, as I think no one can ever know your body better than yourself.

Dear B + C,

I really needed to send this email, as Betty's voice has been haunting my sexual experiences the last couple weeks :)

Betty, I have taken your advice to heart, and have been seeking out more intention sexual experiences and partners, and I have been learning a lot- about others and more importantly, myself....

But what keeps coming up for me in almost EVERY experience, even with woman... is the idea of this whole approach being centered around the Male Sexual Response model!!!! I see it so clearly now.

Dear doctor Betty,

I'm 27 years old woman and recently started a new relationship. I'm not a virgin, but in the past sex was painful for me (not from the beginning, but later) and after few times with pain I started to avoid sex. I didn't have any sexual partner for a long time, I like masturbation and I always have orgasm when I'm doing this (it is really great and I'm doing this often). My new boyfriend doesn't know my sexual past. He invites me to go to his home often (and expecting that we will have sex there).

Dear Betty or anyone else that can help me,

I recently sent a question in but did not receive a response which is completely understandable. I know many questions get sent in. First of all, I am a new sugar baby and I have a few dilemmas. First off, the men I will potentially get intimate with are all married! They say their wife knows about it but how true could that really be? I need to know if it's truly wrong to get involved with married men. I have few options and most men aren't single. I'm in desperate need of financial support so I turn a blind eye to it..

Dear Dr. Betty,

So since the beginning of this year, excluding June, I've been getting BV or a yeast infection before every period. And sometimes I get both. I've been seeing my gynecologist about this and we have yet to figure out why this is why this is happening. I'm starting to lose it, I feel like I no longer can understand my vulva. I've been married for the past 4 years and we have done some BDSM and played with other people but we haven't played with anyone else for over 7 months.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 44-year-old woman who has been with my husband for 25 years. We have always had great sex and he has always put my pleasure first. I recently began having trouble reaching orgasm...even when I'm really turned on and just dying to have sex! I usually can "get there" but it takes a long, long time.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am unsure if this is the right email to ask you a question since there are several on your website. I wish if possible that you don't post my question on your website.

I am 24 and at the age of 20 I was diagnosed with chronic interstitial cystitis and vulvodynia. I have seen at least 10 specialists from urology, gyno, pelvic floor physio, etc. I feel that down there doesn't belong to me after being examined over and over again on a weekly basis.

Dr Betty,

I am writing to you today wishing I saw your website three weeks ago. I had the most beautiful vagina it was gorgeous and my boyfriend of six years loved it as well. I always had intense orgasms especially from oral sex. One thing i always was curious about was why my labia were so long when my friend Amy were barely there. I asked my mother and she said hers were very small and didn't stick out of her outer lips like mine did. She said to talk to my gynecologist cause she didn't think that was normal.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I’m 20 years old and I would love your advice. I am having trouble mentally letting go during sex and masturbation so I find it really difficult to have an orgasm. I have had a few sexual partners but only really managed to have an orgasm twice (both times when I was on top).