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Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 44-year-old woman who has been with my husband for 25 years. We have always had great sex and he has always put my pleasure first. I recently began having trouble reaching orgasm...even when I'm really turned on and just dying to have sex! I usually can "get there" but it takes a long, long time.

Dear Betty Dodson,

I've recently noticed that my "vagina juice" - to want for a better word - is quite acidic, quite lemony, in fact. It is white and creamy, does not have a particular odor - it certainly does not have a bad odor - and I have not experienced any itchiness down there.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I’m 20 years old and I would love your advice. I am having trouble mentally letting go during sex and masturbation so I find it really difficult to have an orgasm. I have had a few sexual partners but only really managed to have an orgasm twice (both times when I was on top).

Dear Dr. Betty,

So since the beginning of this year, excluding June, I've been getting BV or a yeast infection before every period. And sometimes I get both. I've been seeing my gynecologist about this and we have yet to figure out why this is why this is happening. I'm starting to lose it, I feel like I no longer can understand my vulva. I've been married for the past 4 years and we have done some BDSM and played with other people but we haven't played with anyone else for over 7 months.

Dear Betty or anyone else that can help me,

I recently sent a question in but did not receive a response which is completely understandable. I know many questions get sent in. First of all, I am a new sugar baby and I have a few dilemmas. First off, the men I will potentially get intimate with are all married! They say their wife knows about it but how true could that really be? I need to know if it's truly wrong to get involved with married men. I have few options and most men aren't single. I'm in desperate need of financial support so I turn a blind eye to it..

Dear doctor Betty,

I'm 27 years old woman and recently started a new relationship. I'm not a virgin, but in the past sex was painful for me (not from the beginning, but later) and after few times with pain I started to avoid sex. I didn't have any sexual partner for a long time, I like masturbation and I always have orgasm when I'm doing this (it is really great and I'm doing this often). My new boyfriend doesn't know my sexual past. He invites me to go to his home often (and expecting that we will have sex there).

Dear B + C,

I really needed to send this email, as Betty's voice has been haunting my sexual experiences the last couple weeks :)

Betty, I have taken your advice to heart, and have been seeking out more intention sexual experiences and partners, and I have been learning a lot- about others and more importantly, myself....

But what keeps coming up for me in almost EVERY experience, even with woman... is the idea of this whole approach being centered around the Male Sexual Response model!!!! I see it so clearly now.

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, I just want to thank you so much for spreading the important knowledge about the world of sexuality. I have had a progressive upbringing with a mother who was never shy to tell me the in and outs of sex. But your site has given me a more in depth knowledge about how sex “really works” and it’s not all about the penis going into the vagina. I also appreciate encouragement you have for masturbation, as I think no one can ever know your body better than yourself.

Dear Betty,

I've read many of the subjects on this website and a lot of them helped me to understand my sexuality.

I am referring to Primary Anorgasmic, which, to my knowledge, is the inability to have an orgasm, ever.