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Hello, Dr. Betty.

I'm a 18 year old girl and I really need your advice.

I ''met" this guy on a social network and right away his and mine intentions were strictly sexual, he's 25 and well I really want to have sex with him.. The thing is I'm still a virgin.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 59, and I have just started to learn how to have enjoyable sex. I've been plagued all my life with UTIs.

I've been warned to use only water based lubrications or I'll get UTI's, and/or urethritis. When researching G spot orgasms, I read that almond oil is the best lubricant, but again, I have not tried it because of the fear of getting my urethrae clogged, thus getting a UTI.

Can you please explain how these organic oils work with the genitalia and how they will, or will not create a problem.

Dear K,

Hi Betty,

I've been in the same relationship since I was 18. I'm 35 and just had my first clit orgasm on my own. Sex with my partner is sooo boring. I've tried all kinds of ways to liven it up. He prefers showers with oral pleasure. To top it off he is very small and my g spot is abnormally deep.

He doesn't like toys which only leave me foreplay which last just as long as sex: 1.5 mins. We have a teen so opportunities are even more limited. At this point he feels like a brother not a lover.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 20 years old and I have been doing the whole crossing my legs method of masturbation for a few years now. Like many others I discovered this method completely by accident as a child without even really understanding what I was doing. Climbing the rope in gym or perhaps my history of riding horses made me realize "hey that feels pretty good!"

Hello Betty,

I REALLY help some advice, I'm scared I'll never be in a relationship. My problem has obliterated my self-esteem and I feel so alone.

I'm 20 years old and I have had sex with 6 different guys. It started with this one guy I liked; we had sex two separate times but he couldn't orgasm after hours of trying. I felt so embarrassed and thought he wasn't attracted to me so I freaked out stopped seeing him. After that I began having one night stands.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 20 years old and I have been doing the whole crossing my legs method of masturbation for a few years now. Like many others I discovered this method completely by accident as a child without even really understanding what I was doing. Climbing the rope in gym or perhaps my history of riding horses made me realize "hey that feels pretty good!"

Hey Betty,

My names A and I'm wondering if masturbating frequently causes any arousal issues for later on. I know it's rumored that it can happen to men but is it the same for women? For example, if I'm enjoying my "happy time", so to speak, will that affect my ability with my boyfriend say a day later?

Much Thanks,
A

Dear A,

Recently, I received the following question:

“Dr. Betty, in the book The Multi-orgasmic Woman, it says that the use of a vibrator can desensitize the clitoris so that it might become harder for some women to achieve orgasm by touch or oral. What do you think? It's curious because on that same page, they recommend your book Sex for One which I've underlined for 4 years, but only just found your website recently.”

Dear Dr. Betty,

My name's A, and I'm a 21-year old female virgin. For my 21-st B-day three weeks ago, I decided to try something new with my masturbation life and buy myself my first genuine vibrator. After a few days of researching for the best one, I settled for a $40 silicone clitoral vibe and was thrilled to start using it.

Hey!

I am a healthy 22-year-old female, and sadly, I have not had sex in over a year now. I can reach orgasm on my own by clitoral stimulation, but orgasm only once because my clit is too sensitive, although there were a few rare times that I was able to orgasm twice. So my question to you is this... am I too young to use a sex toy?

And if not which will you recommend me to try? I was thinking about a dildo, but the problem is that I still live with my parents and I do not think I'll be able to hide it well. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Dear M,