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Dear Dr. Betty

I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.

Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.

What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.

Dear A,

Hi!

I'm 17 years old and I'm from Brazil, so chances are my English is not very good, sorry about that. So I've done sex for the first time last year. At first I didn't know very well what I was doing, but after searching a little (and finding your videos) things got much clearer for me. It took me some time and self discovery to be able to have an orgasm and it felt great. But then I tried having sex after smoking pot and it felt like ten times better.

Betty,

I appreciate your straight forward, candid approach of breaking down all these barriers and just putting it out there like it is.

So as I am discovering, I am one of the more rare here. I will be 50 in a few days and just recently discovered the benefits and joys of enjoying myself. I have been married close to 30 years to the same man, only sexual partner, several children and never once had solo sex. Such practices were taboo growing up, it is probably the reason for having to deal with so many issues of low self esteem, poor relationship skills etc.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am 21 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. He is the only person I've ever had sex with. I love him but I just can't shake the feeling about being with another guy. I want to but the guilt will kill me and I love him too much to just end our relationship. As well we have a family together I don't want to jeopardize that.

I just don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about it and I feel guilty and helpless.

Any advice?

Thank you
T.

Dear T,

I can’t write a number large enough to cover the amount of emails I get from young, middle-aged, and older woman asking me how to have an orgasm. The constant refrain is that they have tried EVERYTHING and they still can’t come!

Hi Betty and Carlin,

I'm in my 40's and just getting back out there after my 25 year marriage ended. My sex life with the ex was not too exciting. A new guy I've been seeing for a few months is more adventurous sexually (I took a tip from Betty and went out with a younger guy LOL). Anyhow, this guy seems obsessed with getting me to "squirt" and even makes me feel like there's something wrong with me because I can't pull it off.

Dearest Betty and Carlin, get a drink, this is a long one.

I am a 63yr old lesbian and I have finally started my journey toward sexual healing and liberation. I discovered your wonderful web site while searching for information on hooded clits. Google had listed it’s best results, when I accidentally dropped my mouse on the keyboard, and up popped your clitoral hood chart page. If that’s not the Goddess sending me to you, I don’t know what is.

Dear Dr. Betty,

The concept of women always having their own way is not equality. Women have breasts and vaginas. Men have penises.

This fundamental inequality can not be balanced but in all other contexts, for women to have equality to men, men must have the same equality to women.

Women can "do things for themselves" but to overcome the imbalances, women and men should try to understand the world from each others and their own point of view.

Hope you're doing great.

This is Fabiola, from Mexico, your Bodysex certification student and lifetime admirer. I write you to address a question that often comes to my mind since I started my journey at Bodysex, and as a sex researcher it marked the focus of everything I do.

Hi there!

I feel like my story has a lot of weird details, so thank you ahead of time for your patience. I am experiencing some issues with orgasm and am looking for advice and help.