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My Go to Trick for Orgasm
Once full arousal is reached, I allow myself to get close to coming, but pull back and breathe deep, dropping back down.
I Believe Sex is How People are Controlled Which Puts it at the Heart of Politics
My cognitive dissonance kicks in when I consider the glaring omission of human sexuality in political discussions.
How to Best Use a Vibrator
The number one sex toy is some kind of additional lubrication.
My Vagina is tight and dry...can I orgasm?
It's been said that life begins at 40 and since 60 is the new 40; I'd say you have some good times ahead of you.
How Can I Stop My Fantasies?
Your fantasy is a way to rehearse those moments of childhood humiliation, except by ending with an orgasm, you're reclaiming your power from those nasty authority figures.
G-Spot Stimulation Makes Me Have to Pee
Next time you’re fucking, YOU stimulate your clitoris at the same time with however you do it when you masturbate.
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As far as I know, I have never had a G-spot orgasm nor have I ever ejaculated. However, I do know many of my orgasms have been deep, powerful and satisfying. I've also enjoyed those little ten minute maintenance orgasms that release tension. 

Married Woman Who Fantasizes About Other Women
I am still very much attracted to women, I only masturbate to female porn, and I would really like to have another female encounter.
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I Think I've Only Experienced Orgasm in My Sleep

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am a 49 year old woman who was raised very sexually repressed. I got married very late in life just 4 years ago. I have a very loving relationship with my husband who is almost 20 years my junior (and I don't care what other people think). I have had sexual partners prior to my marriage, but I can't say that I am sexually experienced. The dilemma that I am facing is that I have problems with arousal and orgasm. I don't think I have ever experienced an orgasm, only in my sleep.

When I Touch My Clitoris It Isn't Sensitive

Hello,

I am a 25 year old female, and my problem is I can't climax. Well I can but only with vibrators, never on my own with my fingers or while having intercourse. When my partner performs oral sex, it doesn't feel good, or bad i can just feel it.  The same thing is true with my clitoris, when I touch it it's not sensitive.

It does not feel good or bad, but I feel it. I started masturbating at about 13 years old with shower heads and that went on for a few years, that might be the reason why my clitoris isn't as responsive.

Since Antibiotics My Clit is Sore

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been with my partner now for about a year and a half. When we met it was complete passion through and through. But now I don't feel aroused by anything anymore. It takes me a long time to get worked up and I'm always in my head during sex it seems.

How Do Kegels Improve Your Orgasms?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was wondering if you could clear up some confusion I have regarding strengthening your PC muscles and orgasms. What I often read is that kegels will often "enhance" your orgasm or have them happen more frequently.(Yes )

I also have watched a video with you talking about them and how they first came about helping women achieve orgasm for the first time (while initially doing them for incontinence). I know how much you stress that most women who do have orgasm through intercourse are achieving it through clitoral stimulation.

The More I Get Aroused The More I Tighten Up

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you so much for all you do for sexual education and female emancipation. I am so impressed with the body of work you have created, both in art and sexual health.

I'm a 30-year-old woman with primary vaginismus, and have attempted penetrative sex numerous times, with myself and with a partner, but after trying so many times, it's still a challenge. Of course, I have watched yours and Carlin's video on vaginismus, and have read all the literature I could find on the topic.

I Don't Feel Pleasure When I Touch My Clitoris

Hi Betty!

I just recently stumbled across your website and it's helped me a lot but I have a few questions about more specific things. I'm a 17 year old girl who has masturbated since 6th or 7th grade (12-13yrs old). When I first started I used my hand once or twice but then I read about using an electric toothbrush which worked really well, I used that method for a while until I learned about the shower head method which did wonders!

Most Sexual Problems for Women & Between Couples Are How We Define Sex

Orgasm questions to Dr. Betty arrive at a steady pace… How can I be sure I’ve had an orgasm? How can I get a bigger orgasm? Or why can’t I orgasm during sex with my partner? What does an orgasm feel like? How will I know if I’d had an orgasm?

“I have never been able to have an orgasm with anyone; either with clitoral stimulation (although I've been close) and nothing with vaginal penetration. I thought it was only a matter of trust and letting it go, but none of my partners last more than three months.”