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I'm Afraid to Have an Orgasm

Hi Dr. Betty!
I'm a 22 year old girl virgin and I have been reading your blog for quite a while. I didn't start masturbating till I was 17. At first I tried with a vibrator but it hurts so I am now sticking to my hands. I have a seizure disorder and I am on medication for that, but I am afraid about having an orgasm because I was told that there is a possibility that I might have a seizure while having one!
Don't Know Where I Am on the Labia Scale of Normal

Hi Betty,
I came across your website whilst reading up on labiaplasty. This is something I have been doing for a few years now, but realistically the potential fall out is too great a risk (loss of sensitivity, bleeding, recovery etc). My Problem is I read all of your articles and what women say about their labia's - some say the inner minora is 1/4 of an inch longer... Mine is 2 inches longer than my Labia Majora.
FGM Survivor Trying to Achieve Orgasm With the Love of My Life

Hi Betty,
So I am 25 years old and have been married to the love of my life. We've been married for less than 3 months and have really and desperately tried having sex. There are so many levels to this issue. I think I may have vaginismus that makes my muscles contract, which I have been experiencing.
Do I Leave Behind a Life of Stability & Security for a Need to Explore My Own Sexuality?

Hi Betty
I have been in a long term relationship for nearly ten years. I m 30 years old. He is an amazing, kind loving man who will move the earth for me if he has too. However,if I have to be honest I m not sexually attracted to him any more. I have recently been seeing somebody else and the sex is off the charts. Do I leave behind a life of stability and security for a need to explore my own sexuality?
Please help so confused.
Dear M,
Need Advice on First Time Anal Penetration

Dear Dr. Betty,
My bf and I are attempting to have anal sex. I've tried explaining to him that prepping is needed ahead of time. The only thing is he's going by what someone else told him and that is to enter all the way in to get the pain done and over with.
He's length is 6 and a half inches, and he's girth is 5 and a half inches. What would you suggest on how to go about this? Any advice would be much appreciated.
Dear H,
My Clitoris is Shrinking

Dear Dr. Betty,
Hi I'm 48 years old and when I was 46 I noticed that my clitoris has been shrinking and the skin has started to become lose around the hood , it is not as big as it once was and also when I gave birth my baby ripped the skin there. My GYN says I have Lichen Scholerosus (sp)
I don't have itching or discoloration or any of the other symptoms I'm just losing my clitoris. I can still organism but I'm wondering if it's due to to much masterbating with a vibrator? What can I do? Is really small almost nonexistent.
Thank you A
Should I Put My Daughter on Birth Control If She's Still a Virgin

Good morning,
I have a question for you please help I'm so worry about my daughter. My daughter an I have a great communication but I'm worry because she confess me that she and her boyfriend almost had sex but she told she got scared and thought of all the advised.
Never Had an Orgasm With Someone Else. Afraid of Losing Control

Dear Dr. Betty,
Thank you for all the work you've done for women! I really appreciate your work and I'm a big fan. Your hard work for independent orgasm is just impressive! If I was in NY I would visit and and give you a big hug.
I was a woman with many problems, but thanks to your support I'm getting closer to my independent orgasm. Unfortunately I still have problems with my sexual life but I'm pretty sure you can help me to "speed up the process":
Should We Have Sex as a Couple Then Start to "Mix"?

Dear Betty,
I decided to find a couple to have sex with (let's call him) my sex friend and me. Both of us are pretty excited, but I have some doubts...do you think we could start with having sex as a couple and the couple does the same... in terms of getting comfortable ... and maybe then start to "mix"? or is it a weird idea?
Thank you
(BTW - thanks to you I convinced at least one man that a feminist is man´s best friend :) )
Dear E,