Never Had an Orgasm With Someone Else. Afraid of Losing Control

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Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you for all the work you've done for women! I really appreciate your work and I'm a big fan. Your hard work for independent orgasm is just impressive! If I was in NY I would visit and and give you a big hug.

I was a woman with many problems, but thanks to your support I'm getting closer to my independent orgasm. Unfortunately I still have problems with my sexual life but I'm pretty sure you can help me to "speed up the process":

I am 30 years old, but I never had any orgasm with someone else as I am afraid to lose control.

Also I always have clitoral orgasm when I masturbate. I only had a vaginal orgasm once in my entire life(during masturbation).

What do you prefer: to have experience with others and hopefully independent orgasm will come one day or practice masturbation more often, wait for your peak and then have sex with others?..

I wish I could enjoy sex in the next 30 years with someone else, not just masturbating..

How can I lose control? Do I need to feel love for independent orgasms? What would you do if you were me?

Thank you and Love you,

Dear A,

Having an orgasm is NEVER about "loosing control" it's the opposite. Claiming the right to be "In Control' by stimulating our clitorises during vaginal penetration the same way we do when masturbating! Forget coming from vaginal penetration only. That's the dark ages of female sexuality. Yes, there will always be a handful of women who claim they have vaginal orgasms, but they remain a minority.

I suggest women embrace the combo orgasm, clitoral stimulation during vaginal penetration. AND it's best if the woman takes control of her own clit stim. It's all there on the website so keep going over my material. I'm rooting for you.

Dr. Betty

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