Should I Tell Him I'm a Virgin?

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Betty Dodson

Hello, Dr. Betty.

I'm a 18 year old girl and I really need your advice.

I ''met" this guy on a social network and right away his and mine intentions were strictly sexual, he's 25 and well I really want to have sex with him.. The thing is I'm still a virgin.

However, I've been masturbating myself since I can remember and now fingering for about 6 months, but I would really like to read what you think about going forward with it. I don't want to tell him I'm a virgin because I don't want him to freak out but also I've decided not to because the chances he figures out I am are very low.

Thank you

Dear M,

My first advise is to have some form of birth control in place that you control before having penis in vagina sex. PIV sex is mankinds obsession in spite of the fact that most women are not able to have an orgasm that way. Also don't expect a guy to have protection against pregnancy available. The woman is the one who ends up with the full responsibility. I'd like to see more youth spending time sharing manual sex before fucking! But since most kids grow up watching hard core porn which is all about PIV sex with women faking orgasms, that's not likely to happen. So make sure you feel strong enough to take charge of the situation.

As for telling him you're a virgin (a concept I dislike because it's inaccurate) that's none of his business. Since you are orgasmic with masturbation and have self penetrated your vagina, "virgin" no longer applies. Make sure you use some kind of additional lube in case nerves dry your own up. I would certainly meet him first in a public setting to check out his vibe in the flesh. Only then would I move forward. Take care.

Dr. Betty