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Hi Betty,

I have been plagued by an issue when it comes to sex. I guess I have sort of a performance anxiety issue. I just get so shy and don't express myself very much during sex. This has really put a strain on my relationships. Partners have said that they really want me to make noise when something feels good because it provides feedback and is arousing to them. I just can't seem to do it.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a new partner who has an significantly upward curved penis and I don't know how to perform oral sex.

He is a very attentive and pleasing partner. As we have only had sex a couple of times and are working through another issue, I am reluctant to talk to him about this ... yet although I agree that communication is key (and we do but I don't want to discuss this yet from concern that it may impact on another issue we are working through (ED!)).

Hello Betty

I'm 26 and just discovering my sexuality. I know it is embarrassing but I'm delighted about my journey. I've only ever been able to orgasm with a vibrator and most successfully the hitachi. I masturbate daily now and it feels good but I never get the big Os without the vibration. I can't seem to climb the orgasm hill without it. Its like my body is an engine that can't get seem to start.

What exercises can I do to improve my sensitivity? I know PC muscles, and learning to breath, letting go of expectations?

Dear Dr. Dodson,

I am very passionate about the topic of male circumcision. I was persuaded to be circumcised for hygienic reasons after reaching sexual maturity. Probably due to the doctor's own ignorance I was never told of the consequences of this procedure. I learned on my own that the procedure has been detrimental to my ability to be sexually stimulated and therefore experience sexual pleasure. I have been long-suffering in demoralized at having lost a significant part of my sexual ability.

Dr. Betty,

I am 22 years old and a virgin. I currently have to go to the GYN because I'm on oral contraceptives for my acne and horrible menstrual cycles (heavy heavy bleeding, major cramps, etc.. I missed a lot of school before I started) and they say I have to get pelvic exams every so often in order to continue on my birth control.

When the GYN inserts the speculum, the pain is almost unbearable, to the point where I'm usually in tears. I also bleed fairly heavily afterwards as well.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm only in my thirties and yet my pussy hair is going gray...like a lot! We all know that the hair on our heads goes gray with age but I guess I've never really thought about pussy hair turning gray too. I'm too young for a gray pussy!! Do all women go gray down there?

I think I'm going to shave my pussy bald. Don't want to see all that gray hair. Makes me feel old.

C

Dear C,

According to my workshops and private sessions, women are letting their pubes grow out. I honestly prefer pubic hair to a bald pussy.

Hello Betty,

i think you are amazing!! Anyway, i was watching a video and you mentioned gag reflex. Some days i'm a champ no gagging and others its bad. Just wondering how i could stop that completely. I know practice could help. Also I've never been able to deep throat and have the guy cum straight down it. Once it happened and i nearly choked to death Hahaha.. Would just like to know your thoughts.

Thanks so much A

Dear A,

Dear Betty,

I come to you with a heavy and ambivalent heart. I’ve been married to my husband for 13 years, and we’ve been together for 17 years. I’m 39, he’s 44. When we met I’d had a handful of sexual partners, only one in a committed relationship. He’d had probably two handfuls, with two or three serious relationships, neither terribly healthy (there was cheating and drama). He was ready for marriage before I was, but I entered into marriage with an open and willing heart, at age 27.

Dear Betty

My fiancé just found out that I was faking orgasms.. Honestly I did and I was trying to make it seem so real but somehow he found out.. That doesn't mean I was lying the whole time I had great G spot orgasms but the problem is I don't know why can't I come every time we make love.

Understanding the pelvic floor and your pc muscle is vital to achieving orgasm. I encourage women to engage their pc muscle while they stimulate their clitoris using my Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique.

This is a great YouTube on the structure of the pelvic floor with organs, etc in 3D: