Dear Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?
There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Can't Find My G-Spot
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have watched countless tutorials, read countless books on the matter, but for the life of me cannot find my own G Spot. When I masturbate and actually let a finger wander inside my vagina, I can't tell any structure or texture apart in there. It all feels the same. I'd like to be able to find it and try to ejaculate, but I'm not even sure if I've ever come before.
Guys Say My Clitoris is Too Big
Dear Dr. Betty,
I'm 20 yrs old. I been feeling really self conscious about my vagina or clit in particular. I have been told by a few sex partners that my clit is "huge"...I'm too embarrassed to ask my GYN. But it pisses me off/hurts my self esteem when guys say this to me.. Do you think I should get that surgery?
What do you think I should do, if anything?
Thankx
Dear Self Conscious,
Son Likes to Wear My Panties
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have a problem with my son who is 16. Recently he has taken a liking to wearing my panties. He thinks that I don't know about his fetish because he replaces my panties carefully, but I know. Last week I discovered that two or three of my sanitary pads were missing, and yesterday I found one pad in a basement wastebasket. Obviously Bob had masturbated on the pad. I can't help thinking he wanted me to find the ejaculation. In the past I had noticed a few Kleenex tissues with ejaculate on them in his bedroom but that seemed very normal to me.
When We Have Sex, His Foreskin Bleeds
Hi Betty and Carlin,
A Man Who Ejaculates But No Orgasm
Dear Dr. Betty,
I realize you are mostly a woman's advise page, but I admire your work and was hoping you could shed some light on a very confusing issue. I cannot seem to find answers elsewhere. I am a middle aged man in a 20 yr marriage. My wife is the only women I have ever been with. For the last several years I have been experencing ejaculation (premature?) without much if any orgasm. I just come but have none of the "intense feelings" I used to have just seems to sort of dribble out. Anorgasm??
What are My Boyfriend's Chances of Contracting Herpes If I Have No Sign of an Outbreak?
Hi!
I was diagnosed about a year ago with herpes simplex 2 virus! I recently started dating someone who knows i have herpes and during our first time together decided not to wear a condom and to perform oral sex without a Dental dam.
I have only had that first initial outbreak and nothing ever since, what are his chances of contracting the virus even if i had no signs of an outbreak? Is it safe to keep having unprotected sex?
S
Dear S,
Is Anal Penetration For a Guy Similar to Vaginal Penetration For a Woman?
Dear Betty--
I have a question I'm hoping you can answer. I have always been a heterosexual male, but I have also always been curious about what the sexual experience is like for a woman. Obviously, some acts are identical--manual stimulation, oral sex, and (passive) anal intercourse are available to both. However, vaginal intercourse is not. So one must be contented with anal intercourse.
Do Large Labia Run in Families?
Dear Dr. Betty,
Is the size/ shape of a woman's labia genetically linked? i.e. If a woman has large Labia does that mean her mom/ sister's are likely to have the same? Do things like sexual intercourse, masturbation, Child berth contribute to "Large" labia?
Dear J,
Good question.
Will a Threesome Save My Marriage?
Hello Betty,
Boyfriend Struggles to Orgasm & Loses Erection
Dear Doctor Betty,