Dear Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?
There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Is There Any Way to Make Your Penis Bigger?
Hi Dr. Dodson,
Thank you for this great site, for helping me stop feeling guilty about masturbation and becoming more comfortable with the size and the appearence of my penis. But i still have a question regarding size...You know that there are many websites that "address" the issue of penis size and make money by offering medication/ devices/ exercises to gain size.
Is the G-spot Part of the Clitoris?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I found an article in Discovery Health that referred to the g-spot as part of the clit. Since then I have found two more sources that support this claim; "I *heart* Female Orgasm" by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, and "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. I'm so frustrated, because I'd like to believe these are reputable sources! Is this misinformation leftover from when the g-spot became popular, a case of overzealous clit-pride, or is there some truth to it?
R
Dear R,
Women Don't Get Me Hard...Am I Gay?
Dear Betty,
Since I was about seven or eight years old, I have masturbated with the thought of the naked women I saw on American Pie 3 or the thought of my crush. This continued and continued until now, which I am 17 years old. I have asked myself about my sexual orientation and I have literally freaked out about not wanting to be gay, even though, there have been no signs whatsoever throughout my childhood.
Can Masturbation Make Me Infertile?
Dear Dr Betty,
Does the Pill Block Your Orgasms?
Dear Dr. Betty:
I am a twenty-five year old female, who has been sexually active since the age of 16. Never once have I had an orgasm; not by myself nor with a partner. I have been in a relationship for over a year, with a man I believe is going to be my husband one day. He is the only person I have ever told about my inability to orgasm. I always thought I would die without experiencing an orgasm. And I was okay with that.
We Are All Quite Queer
I just ran over to Fifth Avenue to see if I could catch my old, old friend Gretchen who helped me type up the first orders that came in from Ms. Magazine requesting my booklet, Liberating Masturbation. She has been the grand martial for Gay Pride many years now. Although I missed her again, I did catch the NYPD queer cops marching behind the NYPD Marching Band. Wow! That took guts, NYC finest and gay?
F*cking Like a Feminist: The Responses
These are some of the responses I received after penning my essay Fucking Like a Feminist where I posed the question: What does fucking like a feminist mean to you?
Since Anti-depresssants Orgasms Aren't the Same
Dear Dr. Betty,
Can You Get Prolapsed Uterus from Too Much Sex?
Hi Betty,
I'm a big fan of your website and of your work (I have both your books!) and I'm always coming up with questions to ask you. The question I have for you today is in regards to this really awful episode of the Tyra Banks Show that my boyfriend and I stumbled upon on youtube. We were looking up videos about Sasha Grey, the new porn star, who has a new (mainstream) movie coming out and we came across an interview of Sasha on the Tyra show.
The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm by Anne Koedt
After I read the article below by Anne Koedt in 1970, I was thrilled and made a cold call hoping to meet and discuss how we could collaborate. Although Anne was suspicious of me over the phone, once she was sure of my feminist credentials, she set up an appointment. During our visit, she explained that after receiving so much hate mail and a death threat as a result of her article, she was going to disappear. She had just begun a new relationship with a man she loved and didn't want to jeopardize their future with feminist politics.