Dear Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?
There is little doubt that feminism lost ground with the last two generations of young women. I believe one reason for this has been mainstream feminists focus on rape, incest, and violence against women and girls. It's time to rescue sex from violence. We need to acknowledge sexuality as the life force that allows us to procreate and fuels our creative impulses through repeated experiences with pleasure.
Hello Betty,
I am 57, and in the past 2 years was diagnosed with (not severe) rear pelvic wall collapse, and the beginnings of a prolapsed uterus. This discovery was made when I began to have pain during intercourse and problems with constant urinary pressure. At present I am using a vaginal estrogen cream, which has helped significantly with the pressure on my urethra, but I still have pain during intercourse. But my real concern is with my orgasms.
Hello,
I am super embarrassed to even ask this, but ok I am 20 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have had 7 partners and still none of them have been able to give me an orgasm, I have had plenty orgasms through the clitoris through masturbation, but never have I been able to reach one during intercourse through my g spot. I think I am just scared and do not let it happen, but I am sooo sexually frustrated.
Dear Dr. Betty,
Can't Find My G-Spot
Dear Dr. Betty,
I have watched countless tutorials, read countless books on the matter, but for the life of me cannot find my own G Spot. When I masturbate and actually let a finger wander inside my vagina, I can't tell any structure or texture apart in there. It all feels the same. I'd like to be able to find it and try to ejaculate, but I'm not even sure if I've ever come before.
Orgy Guilt Because Didn't Share We Have Herpes
Dear Dr. Betty,
My husband & I both have genital herpes. He is asymptomatic (that is why I contracted it because he was unaware of even having it!) & I have a break out once a yr.the size of my pinky nail. This has never hindered our lives and we have 2 beautiful children.
How Do You Get Over the Guilt of Infidelity?
Dear Betty and Carlin,
First of all, let me say you two women are so incredibly beautiful and inspiring. I have just discovered your podcasts, and they are so funny, and i cannot help cracking up when you do. Stunning people.
I Never Feel Like I Need to Masturbate
Dearest darling Dr. Betty~
How Can You "Begin" Sexually Without an Emotional Connection?
Dear Dr. Betty,
Is the G-spot Part of the Clitoris?
Dear Dr. Betty,
I found an article in Discovery Health that referred to the g-spot as part of the clit. Since then I have found two more sources that support this claim; "I *heart* Female Orgasm" by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller, and "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner. I'm so frustrated, because I'd like to believe these are reputable sources! Is this misinformation leftover from when the g-spot became popular, a case of overzealous clit-pride, or is there some truth to it?
R
Dear R,
Is There Any Way to Make Your Penis Bigger?
Hi Dr. Dodson,
Thank you for this great site, for helping me stop feeling guilty about masturbation and becoming more comfortable with the size and the appearence of my penis. But i still have a question regarding size...You know that there are many websites that "address" the issue of penis size and make money by offering medication/ devices/ exercises to gain size.
Can Marijuana Increase Libido?
Hi Betty,
I'm a 30 year old, self-employed female who has been in a long term (5 year) relationship with a man, two years my senior. We're both relatively healthy, attractive, and out-going. As can (probably) be expected, we have sex a lot more infrequently these days than we did in the first three years of our relationship, when we weren't running our own business, and things were still pretty new.
Is There Sex After a Stroke?
Hello:
I have been admiring your site for years, but when I got the nerve to ask one of many hard questions for my wife's stroke she had in september of 2008. My question is if a woman has had a CVA or stroke, what happened to her sexuality? Since she has been home we have tried many times to have sex, but she does come close to enjoying like she did before.
How Can I Recreate the Ecstasy of Pregnant Sex?
Dear Dr. Betty,
Why is it that my sex life becomes so much more physically satisfying when I'm pregnant? My breasts actually become erogenous zones that I want my husband to play with and I enjoy really strong, powerful, intense, wonderful, screaming orgasms! (Lucky me!) This is my fourth baby, and we are done! How do I recreate these physical conditions/sensations after I deliver?
I'd really like to keep this intensity and physical enjoyment. Note: Non-pregnant sex is wonderful, but pregnant sex is just soooooo much better.
Thanks!
JD