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After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.

Dr. Betty,

Hi Betty,

I’ve been struggling with my sexual orientation for a couple of years and am wondering, if you, knowledgeable and esteemed lady :-), might have a word or two of advice, as I don’t seem to be able to get anywhere on my own.

Dear Betty,

My boyfriend and I live together. He is open that he masturbates to pornography regularly, often after I leave for work in the morning. I understand this as healthy, but I sometimes feel uncomfortable about it, since I feel that it influences the way we have sex, and how he views women---he often wants to come on me, or asks me to "do something" he's seen in a porn, often something humiliating to me. It makes me uncomfortable, but I try to be supportive of his desires, while maintaining my boundaries. However, things recently went too far.

Betty,

You and Carlin are very adventurous and obviously you both have had sex with numerous people and continue to explore our vast population. I learned in sex ed that when a women has sex with a man, her hormones are automatically going to make her somewhat attached to that man. So my question is, is that true? And if so, how do you and Carlin curb those emotions? How are you both able to not feel attached or in love with someone you only had sex with?

Dear A,

Hello Betty,

Hello Betty,

I'm now 19 and am lucky enough to have been following your work, and have become somewhat of a fan girl.

Hi,
I've never been a big fan of oral sex, but my current boyfriend really seems to like it so I want to get better at it. Problem is, I cannot seem to "hide" my teeth well and hurt him. He is very thick, and I do not have a big mouth. Please give me as many tricks as you can!!!

Thanks!

Dear M,

Hello Betty,

Before I start off, I must say that I am really enjoying everything that you and all your readers and contributors have put out on here.
It's great to get some frank talk about sex and masturbation.

Dear Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for reading my question. I appreciate your time and perspective and I hope that my email addresses a worthy, yet lesser-discussed topic that will interest your audience.

QUESTION

I have been asking myself: “Do I need to accept medical celibacy due to a low libido, anorgasmia and dyspareunia?” If so, do you have recommendations for accepting this lifestyle?”

BACKGROUND