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Dear Dr. Betty,

I have not been able to have an orgasm since I had my hysterectomy. I thought at first it was because I was in a bad marriage, we didn't have sex at all the last five years we were together. However, I have been involved with a wonderful man for the past year, he is very loving and attentive, and has no problem exciting me! But I still cannot seem to have an orgasm, only a couple of times. It feels good, but never quite gets there. Even self stimulation falls short. Is there anything I can do?

Dear D,

Dear Dr. Betty,

My penis is 4.5 inches long and i want to give my wife something more. we have used several extensions but they fall off and do not work good. would it be weird if i use a strap on?

Dear J,

Just so you know, your penis is within the average range. Again this is where porn sends out the wrong message the same as it does for women.

Hello Betty

This is very long but I wanted you to have the full story. I’m sorry. I’m 63 years of age and reasonably fit. I exercise regularly but probably eat and drink a bit too much. My wife began menopause in the mid 1990’s and unfortunately she had a terrible time over the next 4 or 5 years; we still had sex but less often.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My spouse of 38 years has developed a wound on her clitoris that actually bleeds. We engage in mutual masturbation on a weekly basis, especially since my prostatectomy for prostate cancer. Since reading your information on masturbation, she has been using the Hitachi magic wand exclusively.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Cal and I have been seeing each other off and on for five years. We seem to drift in and out of each others lives fluidly and I have come to love and cherish the freedom within our relationship. I had only been with one other partner when Cal and I started seeing each other and he had never given me an orgasm (although I had given myself plenty).

Dear Betty,

I am a 24 year old woman and I've been masturbating since i was 7-8 and i love it!! best thing god created for men and women. anyways I've been wondering when i masturbate i always think of other women in my sexual fantasies when I'm doing it. Does this mean that I could be a lesbian? (I am a straight woman). I would love to hear your advice.

thanks,

F

Dear F,

Dear Betty,

I am super happy to inform you that the barbell has become essential to our marriage. I am 66 and my wife 67. We have some foreplay and then she uses the magic wand and barbell combination. She usually has a rather intense orgasm after a short while. Then I glisten myself with almond oil and either masturbate in front of her with her holding my balls, or I harden myself up and come inside with the side position (you spoke of it in sex for one). What you have done is beyond imagining! I hope you are aware of your contribution.

Dear Betty,

Thank you for this site. I've been wanting to talk to someone about this issue. I was very late coming to masturbation....45 years old before I had my first orgasm. It happened with the magic wand and I quickly became addicted. I have never had much luck coming in any other way so have used it almost exclusively over the years...many of those years as a single woman.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been married for 10 years, my husband has tried oral and manual stimulation, but I've never been able to orgasm. I have either a very small, or non-existant clitoral gland, so is there any hope? If there is nothing there to stimulate - how can I orgasm. The only good stimulation I've received is through fairly intense water jet power. Any suggestions are welcome.

Dear D,