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Hello!

First of all I would like to preface my question with an enormous thanks to you and Carlin for all the passion, knowledge and dedication you put into your work. To have a resource of this immeasurable quality is invaluable to me and I hope that your message will continue to spread!

I am writing because I value your opinion most of all and am unsure of how to proceed. Forgive me for all the details but I want to be comprehensive.

I am a 22-year-old female. I have been self-sexual since the first onset of puberty at 10 or 11 years old.

Hi Betty and Carlin!

So much love for this website and I love your videos!

So to give you a little background, I am 22 years old and I have been masturbating since I was a child. I always struggled with reaching orgasm because.. it made me want to pee. I've googled this and some say that it might be a "squirting orgasm" and all that jazz but I don't really have orgasms, or rather, they're super small. (I just bought myself a Magic Wand and have been using it everyday since so I doubt that will be a problem any longer! HA HA!!)

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 17 years old and I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, although I've always been in romantic relationships with boys, until now. One thing I know for sure is I've always been attracted to women (I've always fantisized about girls bodies) but I don't know if I'm attracted to boys at all: I've never had a sexual experience, encounter or relationship with a man (not because I don't want to, I just haven't had the opportunity) and I think penises are gross and they scare me.

Dear Betty,

Throughout my 18 year marriage with my wife I've been a premature ejaculator (it's been really hard for both of us). The thing is is that I get turned on so quickly (every time I embrace my wife and give her a kiss there's a stirring in my pants - I never have a cuddle without becoming erect (and it's embarrassing to be honest - perhaps it would be less so if I could avoid cumming after 1 or 2 minutes inside her).

I have found that using a delay cream helps and makes sex last a lot longer and much more enjoyable.

Hello,

I've run out of things to try to fix my problem. Whenever I feel even a little pleasure in my genital region I have contractions and it's all over. I've been masturbating since I was 11, I'm 23 now. After a few years of masturbating my orgasms became so weak that I basically only had them to fall asleep easier. They haven't improved even with edging or not masturbating for several months.

I'm wondering if I'm even having orgasms. I have the signs of orgasm like contractions in my vagina and feeling relaxed afterwards.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm an 18 year old girl who likes girls. I am currently in a long-term relationship but have never orgasmed during intercourse. I feel pressure occasionally but never any pleasure. Touching my clitoris and penetration both just feel like pressure, no sensation at all. I have tried masturbation since I was in middle school or so (maybe a little sooner) with the same results, no sensation.

Hi Betty ,

I saw a video about you yesterday and I write your today because I´m very interested in getting help for what happens to me.

Hi Betty,

I am a 23 year old male and I have been masturbating since I was 13. Ive struggled with the fear of making mess from ejaculating for a long time and that really kills the experience. I have a fear I guess of getting my semen all over myself. I know this is normal but I just can't get my brain to enjoy my orgasm if I don't ejaculated into a tissue.

Are there any ways I can overcome this problem?

M

Dear M,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I used an exercise bike about 2 months ago. The seat put a lot of pressure on my perineum, but never made any contact with the clitoral area. I experienced this shooting pain in the perineum area a few hours after I got off of it, and it occurred again on and off for a few days after. I'd only used the bike for an hour. 3 days after, I was unable to orgasm.

Dear Dr. Betty Hello,

I’m 16 years old by now and I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. We have had sex by all this time and I have always experienced the same when he penetrates me, anything. Before penetration we normally masturbate each other and he usually plays with my clitoris, this gives me pleasure but at the same time I get super stressed and I just can think about him stopping masturbating me.