Fear the Mess of Masturbation

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Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am a 23 year old male and I have been masturbating since I was 13. Ive struggled with the fear of making mess from ejaculating for a long time and that really kills the experience. I have a fear I guess of getting my semen all over myself. I know this is normal but I just can't get my brain to enjoy my orgasm if I don't ejaculated into a tissue.

Are there any ways I can overcome this problem?


Dear M,

Pick a time when you know you have privacy. Have a drink or a smoke. Take several moments lying in bed and do some deep breathing. Have a fantasy that you are making a porn movie.

The climax is you coming all over yourself. Then massaging the cum into your skin as a healing lotion. I make it a habit to always check the aroma and taste a bit. It's always different. The ending is you sucking and licking the cum off your fingers. While jerking off with your other hand. Fade to black. 

Dr Betty

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