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Dear Dr. Betty,

When I was quite young I started masturbating by crossing my legs and then rubbing my thighs. At that time, I didn't knew at all what it is, but since I used to like it I continued doing it. I used to come within minutes. now when I try to masturbate I am not able to have an orgasm.

I feel a pleasant pressure but that's it..Nothing more than that.my bf touched me, used to finger me often but it was of no use. I wanted to know if this cross legged rubbing has affected my sexual life? Will I will be able to have an orgasm.?

Hi Betty,

Until about a year ago I was suffering from primary anorgasmia (which I have put down to the contraceptive pill). I am 24, started having sex at 17. My experiences with orgasms both solo and with a male partner are always clitoral and feel like a wonderful build but more like a ‘sigh’ of release. However, sometimes when I am on top I will have two of these ‘build and sigh’ orgasms and then I have this SUPER strong sexual arousal, the sensation that I’m about to pee and then more of a wave of release. I should note that with none of these do I feel ‘pelvic contractions’.

Dear Betty,

As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him.

As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my age group as a young adult I cried. Many years later with grown children and I'm menopausal now I find if I am not active my vagina closes up. I have a partner now and after a long time of celibacy he re-opened me and it was very painful.

Hi Betty,

This is more of a thank-you/feedback email than a question. I wanted to thank you for promoting the use of the Fleshlight (and Eric as well, since I also read some of his stuff about it on your website). I will tell you exactly why.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My question is quite simple: I've read many things about the pill and everything was quite confusing, unclear and controversial. In your long story of helping women with their orgasms, did you - personally - ever noticed a link between taking the pill and inability to orgasm?

Dr. Dodson,

A few years ago, you wrote

"I would agree with the Orthodox Jews on this one point. . . .men can't do anything but have sexual intercourse with their wives, while she can do anything like masturbate, use vibes, dildos, porn anything at all. It a reverse double standard in a way. The female sex drive far exceeds that of the male but it remains one of the best kept secrets thanks to our sexual double standard."

Hi Betty!

So grateful to have your channel on YouTube, it has been really helpful and healing for me to watch. I wanted to ask you my own question about my special sex life!

Hi Betty,

I'm 34 and have always had a healthy sex drive. I have had anonymous sex and I love it. I find myself repressing my desire to be sexual, because it's not "proper". I don't have sex regularly, because I do not have a partner. So, that leaves me quite frustrated.

I want to give myself permission to have protected sex with as many men as I like, because I simply like sex. How do I move past the social norms and finally embrace who I am.

Dear S,

Hi Betty,

I am working in the sexual field doing massage and Lingam and Yoni massage. I had a client today who has never masturbated and she turns 30 this year. I told her that we could do an explorative session like yours whereby we take a mirror and learn how to touch and show her the different aspects of her Yoni.