Hi Dr. Betty,

Oh, where to begin. At 27 years old, I have sort of given up on myself. I have been sexually active for about a decade and have been in loving relationships with different partners. I consider myself quite a sexual person, comfortable with my sexuality, etc. But I am unable to climax without a vibrator (both on my own and with a partner). I originally learned to orgasm at a young age using a make-shift vibrator. Now, when I try to touch myself without a vibrator I either a) find it too intense (directly on the clitoris) or quite dull (around the clitoris).

Hey Betty,

I would really like to thank you for this amazing website. I discovered your podcasts/website and fell in love. I am consistently inspired by you and Carlin both!

Hello Dr. Betty

I spoke to you about a week ago, many thanks for your answers they helped me.

And also would like to ask a further few questions, I have been suffering a feeling of great pain, I badly need to have sexual intercourse, but I haven't had any luck with finding a girlfriend and the two married women I have had sex with claim it was a one time thing. I need a stable girl to have sex with (I have thought about a prostitute but to me that feels like abusing the woman, I couldn't live with the guilt!).

Hi Betty,

Using the advise from your videos and site I was able to give my partner an orgasm like she'd never experienced before. The look on her face was priceless. A woman truly enjoying herself is very sexy.

Dear Betty,

First of all, thanks for the amazing resources you have here! For the first time since I started trying to understand my own orgasms–it's been about four years!–I found validation for my own experiences. As it turns out, I've been giving myself pressure orgasms since I was young, and I, like others who have submitted questions, was worried that I had "ruined" my clitoris. After reading your techniques and tips I feel confident that I can wean myself off the pressure orgasm and learn some new tricks, and hopefully even orgasm with a partner.

Hello Betty,

i think you are amazing!! Anyway, i was watching a video and you mentioned gag reflex. Some days i'm a champ no gagging and others its bad. Just wondering how i could stop that completely. I know practice could help. Also I've never been able to deep throat and have the guy cum straight down it. Once it happened and i nearly choked to death Hahaha.. Would just like to know your thoughts.

Thanks so much A

Dear A,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a new partner who has an significantly upward curved penis and I don't know how to perform oral sex.

He is a very attentive and pleasing partner. As we have only had sex a couple of times and are working through another issue, I am reluctant to talk to him about this ... yet although I agree that communication is key (and we do but I don't want to discuss this yet from concern that it may impact on another issue we are working through (ED!)).

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm only in my thirties and yet my pussy hair is going gray...like a lot! We all know that the hair on our heads goes gray with age but I guess I've never really thought about pussy hair turning gray too. I'm too young for a gray pussy!! Do all women go gray down there?

I think I'm going to shave my pussy bald. Don't want to see all that gray hair. Makes me feel old.

C

Dear C,

According to my workshops and private sessions, women are letting their pubes grow out. I honestly prefer pubic hair to a bald pussy.

Hello Betty

I'm 26 and just discovering my sexuality. I know it is embarrassing but I'm delighted about my journey. I've only ever been able to orgasm with a vibrator and most successfully the hitachi. I masturbate daily now and it feels good but I never get the big Os without the vibration. I can't seem to climb the orgasm hill without it. Its like my body is an engine that can't get seem to start.

What exercises can I do to improve my sensitivity? I know PC muscles, and learning to breath, letting go of expectations?

Hi there,

I suffer from Ankylosing spondylitis and have searched online for help with positioning to help me feel comfortable during sex.

My partner says that she is happy, but I mostly use my hands, mouth and the occasional toy, which I am happy with too and it brings enjoyment and pleasure for my partner. But, I would like to just have regular penetrative sex sometimes, but It can be difficult and uncomfortable and painful for me as I have limited movement in my back, hips and pelvis and no movement in my neck.