Hi Dr. Betty,

I have been following your site for several years. For many reasons, I have been avoiding the genital self exam...

This Valentine's Day, I gave myself this gift. To my surprise, it was a very empowering experience.

I have two questions:

1. I can feel, but I wasn't able to see my clit - I even used a magnifying mirror. I know it's there, as the stimulation is very pleasant and I did orgasm. Do some women have less visually prominent clits (as compared to pics and video I've seen, where clits look like peas or small beads)?

Dear Betty,

I'm in what seems to be a unique situation . My bf says I do things like squeeze and push him out my vagina and it numbs his penis and makes it go down and lose blood flow. Have you heard of this before ? He says this has happened to him before and makes him feel like I'm rejecting him sexually which I think is obsurd of course. Because I have no control of when this happens, or at least don't feel it. He says i need to relax and.

Dear Betty,

Hello Betty, I am so very happy to have found your site a few years ago. I have learned a lot!

What is the best way to go about 'fixing' my PC muscle? I have been with the same partner for nearly 15 years and we have had three kids. I am 33, my youngest is six. I have never done anything to help myself along the way, now I'm in panic mode.

Hello,

I had my first orgasm in elementary school, as I was trying to climb up a rope. I didn't realize what it was at the time but I remember I knew I liked it, and would sneak back and try to climb up it whenever I could to experience that again. I also did this with poles, and then eventually on a door- I would hold the handles and bring my legs up around the door and do it that way.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Help. I think I've trained my pelvic muscles to push out instead of in - I can expel one of your barbells easily when I cum but I cannot easily 'stop mid-pee', and now I am peeing when I cough...

I really need a suggestion re: weights or a toy/tool that will help me IDENTIFY and retrain my muscles correctly (I do squirt when I cum, don't know if that is related) there are so many weights and kegel exercisers online, I'm hoping you've got an expert opinion on this.

Thank you so much in advance

N

Dear N,

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hey, I'm A and I'm 17. I've been into sex from such a young age around 7 or 8 years old. I've always masturbated since then and always get to my orgasm and it feels so good. I started out humping up until I was 13 or so. I used my hands to massage clit area and came every time. I then used vibrating massager on clit and vagina area and it gave me a more intense orgasm, which I loved even more so I got addicted to it.

Hi Betty!

Lovely to find your site! Made me feel so normal! I've been masturbating since I was kid, (I didn't know it then), and regularly since I hit puberty. I am now 21, and still a "virgin" to partner sex. I guess I have been waiting, not for the "one", but for anyone! I have always assumed I'd get attached to whoever I first did it with, so I've been waiting for a guy who I would date semi-seriously, but it hasn't happened (maybe I'm too picky?).

Recently, I received the following question:

“Dr. Betty, in the book The Multi-orgasmic Woman, it says that the use of a vibrator can desensitize the clitoris so that it might become harder for some women to achieve orgasm by touch or oral. What do you think? It's curious because on that same page, they recommend your book Sex for One which I've underlined for 4 years, but only just found your website recently.”

Hello Betty,

I REALLY help some advice, I'm scared I'll never be in a relationship. My problem has obliterated my self-esteem and I feel so alone.

I'm 20 years old and I have had sex with 6 different guys. It started with this one guy I liked; we had sex two separate times but he couldn't orgasm after hours of trying. I felt so embarrassed and thought he wasn't attracted to me so I freaked out stopped seeing him. After that I began having one night stands.