How Can I Learn to Enjoy Sex & Not Worry About My Disabled Body?

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, I just want to thank you so much for spreading the important knowledge about the world of sexuality. I have had a progressive upbringing with a mother who was never shy to tell me the in and outs of sex. But your site has given me a more in depth knowledge about how sex “really works” and it’s not all about the penis going into the vagina. I also appreciate encouragement you have for masturbation, as I think no one can ever know your body better than yourself.

I've Been Getting a Yeast Infection Before Every Period

Dear Dr. Betty,

So since the beginning of this year, excluding June, I've been getting BV or a yeast infection before every period. And sometimes I get both. I've been seeing my gynecologist about this and we have yet to figure out why this is why this is happening. I'm starting to lose it, I feel like I no longer can understand my vulva. I've been married for the past 4 years and we have done some BDSM and played with other people but we haven't played with anyone else for over 7 months.

Almost Every Time I Receive Oral Sex My Legs Start to Tremble

Hi Betty,

I have a doubt since long and I think you might help me. Almost every time I recieve oral sex my legs start to tremble and it´s kind of never stopping. I mean how can I realize that I have finished? Do I have to stay longer? I always end in telling my partner to stop cause I can't control it.

XOXO, love your page

Dear M,

The trembling usually means you are about to have an orgasm or you've just had one and are experiencing after shocks of pleasure that will continue as long as you are getting good clitoral stimulation.

I Regret Having Labiaplasty

Dr Betty,

I am writing to you today wishing I saw your website three weeks ago. I had the most beautiful vagina it was gorgeous and my boyfriend of six years loved it as well. I always had intense orgasms especially from oral sex. One thing i always was curious about was why my labia were so long when my friend Amy were barely there. I asked my mother and she said hers were very small and didn't stick out of her outer lips like mine did. She said to talk to my gynecologist cause she didn't think that was normal.

Chronic Interstitial Cystitis & Vulvodynia Make Me Feel Broken

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am unsure if this is the right email to ask you a question since there are several on your website. I wish if possible that you don't post my question on your website.

I am 24 and at the age of 20 I was diagnosed with chronic interstitial cystitis and vulvodynia. I have seen at least 10 specialists from urology, gyno, pelvic floor physio, etc. I feel that down there doesn't belong to me after being examined over and over again on a weekly basis.

She Likes Deep Prolonged Intercourse. Would a Dildo Help?

Hello Dr Betty

Have a question for you - not sure how this works on your site.

I have been dating a wonderful lady for the past seven months - she is 49, I am 35. The relationship is fabulous, in all departments. Best sex of my life, she feels the same.

Sexually speaking, we are having a great time. She likes clitoral stimulation has powerful orgasms, however absolutely loves internal stimulation with my penis and fingers - especially deep penetration.

Which Lubricant Do I Use for Which Sex Act?

Hi Betty!

I'm an eighteen year old male and I will likely be losing my "intercourse virginity" within the next coming months. I've gained so much important information from books and from your website that I'm sure when the time comes it will not be as nerve racking and it'll be a much for enjoyable experience for both of us.

Recently I bought Now Solutions all-natural almond oil and two Sliquid lubricants. My question pertains to what situations each of these lubricants should be used for.

I Want to Become More Sensitized to Sex

Hello Dr. Betty.

I am a 23 years old, but will be 24 years old by the end of next month. I have not had any form of sexual contact with a female, but would like to in the near future. I have delayed having sex because there are three issues for me to deal with. They are risk, consent, and finding the right person to have sex with it. I don't want to just spread the love around, but want to be smart when it comes having sex. I think that sharing a sexual moment with someone is special and want to be ready for that moment.

How Do I Encourage Her to Explore & Experiment & Not be Embarrassed?

Hi Betty,

Firstly, I realize that I'm a lucky man - I have regular sex with my partner and she usually orgasms from penetration alone!

But I think our sex life could be even better. I'd love my partner to be able to tell me about things other than penetration that feel good for her. Foreplay can be a bit brief - kissing of course, a few minutes of touching each other's genitals with hands, and then in it goes!

Virgin Asks: How Can I Make My First Time Great?

Hi Betty,

First off, I love your work and your message. I'm 27, a virgin and I started masturbating about 6 months ago. And, your videos have really helped me to learn about self-love. My only fear now is my lack of skill in the sack. I've started seeing a nice guy about a month ago and now I'm considering having sex with him.

But I'm afraid of being a dud in bed. How can I make my first time with him a great one that will make him want me more?

Dear M,