Hello Dr. Betty.

I am a 23 years old, but will be 24 years old by the end of next month. I have not had any form of sexual contact with a female, but would like to in the near future. I have delayed having sex because there are three issues for me to deal with. They are risk, consent, and finding the right person to have sex with it. I don't want to just spread the love around, but want to be smart when it comes having sex. I think that sharing a sexual moment with someone is special and want to be ready for that moment.

Hi Betty,

Firstly, I realize that I'm a lucky man - I have regular sex with my partner and she usually orgasms from penetration alone!

But I think our sex life could be even better. I'd love my partner to be able to tell me about things other than penetration that feel good for her. Foreplay can be a bit brief - kissing of course, a few minutes of touching each other's genitals with hands, and then in it goes!

Hi Betty,

First off, I love your work and your message. I'm 27, a virgin and I started masturbating about 6 months ago. And, your videos have really helped me to learn about self-love. My only fear now is my lack of skill in the sack. I've started seeing a nice guy about a month ago and now I'm considering having sex with him.

But I'm afraid of being a dud in bed. How can I make my first time with him a great one that will make him want me more?

Dear M,

Hi Betty

I have recently ended a relationship with a man 36 years older than me. We were together for a short time in the world of relationships probably around 4-5 months. For the first time with him I was able to have a clitoral orgasm through intercourse, it only happened twice but it was amazing to know that it can happen.

Hi Dr. Betty:

Hi!

I'm 17 years old and I'm from Brazil, so chances are my English is not very good, sorry about that. So I've done sex for the first time last year. At first I didn't know very well what I was doing, but after searching a little (and finding your videos) things got much clearer for me. It took me some time and self discovery to be able to have an orgasm and it felt great. But then I tried having sex after smoking pot and it felt like ten times better.

Dear Dr. Betty

I'm not a teen anymore, but I live with my parents. Unfortunately I don't believe they understand I have sexual needs as an adult because they still see me as a kid (because I'm still an University student and I never dated anyone before) so they wouldn't accept the fact that I do masturbate and need sex toys.

Thing is, I'm too shy to go to a sex shop all by myself and I can't order online because of my parents.

What can I possibly do? Thank you so much.

Dear A,

Hello!

First of all: this is a wonderful page and I already read and found a lot of really helpful things.

Hi there!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 20 year old engineering student. For the last two years I have been unable to orgasm when having sex or mutually masturbating with my lover. I can only orgasm alone. This has taken a negative toll on my lover's self-esteem. Lately I have wanted sex less despite having just acquired our own space to play, and he told me that he is now feeling unloved. I think I am turning myself off, before and during sex, with my body image and an unhealthy sexual/romantic upbringing. I just do not know where to start tackling these issues.