Hi Betty!

Lovely to find your site! Made me feel so normal! I've been masturbating since I was kid, (I didn't know it then), and regularly since I hit puberty. I am now 21, and still a "virgin" to partner sex. I guess I have been waiting, not for the "one", but for anyone! I have always assumed I'd get attached to whoever I first did it with, so I've been waiting for a guy who I would date semi-seriously, but it hasn't happened (maybe I'm too picky?).

Recently, I received the following question:

“Dr. Betty, in the book The Multi-orgasmic Woman, it says that the use of a vibrator can desensitize the clitoris so that it might become harder for some women to achieve orgasm by touch or oral. What do you think? It's curious because on that same page, they recommend your book Sex for One which I've underlined for 4 years, but only just found your website recently.”

Hello Betty,

I REALLY help some advice, I'm scared I'll never be in a relationship. My problem has obliterated my self-esteem and I feel so alone.

I'm 20 years old and I have had sex with 6 different guys. It started with this one guy I liked; we had sex two separate times but he couldn't orgasm after hours of trying. I felt so embarrassed and thought he wasn't attracted to me so I freaked out stopped seeing him. After that I began having one night stands.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 59, and I have just started to learn how to have enjoyable sex. I've been plagued all my life with UTIs.

I've been warned to use only water based lubrications or I'll get UTI's, and/or urethritis. When researching G spot orgasms, I read that almond oil is the best lubricant, but again, I have not tried it because of the fear of getting my urethrae clogged, thus getting a UTI.

Can you please explain how these organic oils work with the genitalia and how they will, or will not create a problem.

Dear K,

Hello, Dr. Betty.

I'm a 18 year old girl and I really need your advice.

I ''met" this guy on a social network and right away his and mine intentions were strictly sexual, he's 25 and well I really want to have sex with him.. The thing is I'm still a virgin.

Dear Betty,

I've read many of the subjects on this website and a lot of them helped me to understand my sexuality.

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, I just want to thank you so much for spreading the important knowledge about the world of sexuality. I have had a progressive upbringing with a mother who was never shy to tell me the in and outs of sex. But your site has given me a more in depth knowledge about how sex “really works” and it’s not all about the penis going into the vagina. I also appreciate encouragement you have for masturbation, as I think no one can ever know your body better than yourself.

Dear Dr. Betty,

So since the beginning of this year, excluding June, I've been getting BV or a yeast infection before every period. And sometimes I get both. I've been seeing my gynecologist about this and we have yet to figure out why this is why this is happening. I'm starting to lose it, I feel like I no longer can understand my vulva. I've been married for the past 4 years and we have done some BDSM and played with other people but we haven't played with anyone else for over 7 months.

Hi Betty,

I have a doubt since long and I think you might help me. Almost every time I recieve oral sex my legs start to tremble and it´s kind of never stopping. I mean how can I realize that I have finished? Do I have to stay longer? I always end in telling my partner to stop cause I can't control it.

XOXO, love your page

Dear M,

The trembling usually means you are about to have an orgasm or you've just had one and are experiencing after shocks of pleasure that will continue as long as you are getting good clitoral stimulation.

Dr Betty,

I am writing to you today wishing I saw your website three weeks ago. I had the most beautiful vagina it was gorgeous and my boyfriend of six years loved it as well. I always had intense orgasms especially from oral sex. One thing i always was curious about was why my labia were so long when my friend Amy were barely there. I asked my mother and she said hers were very small and didn't stick out of her outer lips like mine did. She said to talk to my gynecologist cause she didn't think that was normal.