I Have Sex with Guys But Fantasize About Women

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've only had sex with guys but I've always had this fantasy about fucking another woman. So I've tried to kind of invite other girls at parties to having sex, but they've always said no. I guess I'm not really good-looking and all that but I have the confidence. I would love to see if it's more than just a fantasy. Maybe I'm doing something wrong?

I Have No Idea How to Fantasize

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have no idea how to fantasize. Ive been trying and nothing comes to mind. Any ideas how to ? One thing that turns me on and leads to orgasm is watching porn where a woman with large breasts bouncing and hearing her "have pleasure". I cant orgasm without porn like I use to when i was younger.

Is There Any Way to Control My Sexual Desires or Calm My Mind?

Dear Dr. Betty,

Ever since I was young I always liked to touch on my body or look at myself in mirrors. Around the age of 9, I started having fantasies about females masturbating and stuff and when I woke up my hand would be in my pants on my clit. I'm 20 now and still have these dreams or get aroused by the dreams but now I wake up with my fingers actually inside me.

How Do I Not Let My Emotional Discomfort Override My Physical Response?

Hi Betty,

I am new to your and Carlin's site and have enjoyed browsing the videos, books, and all the other information provided. I have recently turned 50 yrs old and haven't been the most sexual active of people for various reasons. In retrospect of this fact, I feel as though it may have worked to my advantage in that, I do not have a lot of baggage in the form of negative sexual experiences to reprogram.