Dear Betty & Carlin

Hi,

I want to know about the safest sexual practices I can use, besides abstention. I am lesbian, single and want to insure I'm not bringing anything home I don't want. Are gloves and dental dams the only option, besides getting everyone tested? Sucking on a dental dam is about a wonderful as sucking on a balloon and if guys think rubbers suck. They should try to use a dental dam.

Any suggestions?

Thanks,
E

Dear E,

Hi Dr Betty!,

Yet another question. Can one contract a UTI by using a dildo for both vaginal and clit stimulation? After doing that (no anal play involved), I got a wicked one that went into my kidney and I'm a little apprehensive about getting off again using that method. (Peeing fire is definitely not fun!)

I know you are not an MD, but thought your priceless experience might be able to shed a little light on things.

M

Dear M,

Dear Dr. Betty,

My wife is a big fan of the Hitachi Magic Wand (thanks to you). After a warm up period with the wand, I am lucky to be able to pleasure her with a large dildo. (How I wish I was that big!) This is a guaranteed orgasm for her - never fails. I really love this ritual as it allows me to enjoy her visually - there is nothing quite so powerful as watching a woman you love enjoying an orgasm. She always takes the dildo out when she reaches orgasm and her vagina pulses repeatedly. It is truly the most powerful thing I have ever seen and I can't get enough of it.

Dr. Betty,

Hi, Betty.

I would first like to say that I LOVE your website. I'm 16 and have always had a lot of sexual curiosity and I love when people, like yourself can speak freely about a topic that has, unfortunately been so down played and criticized by our society. Thank you and Carlin for all you do.

First off, THANK you for living and breathing! This site has helped me realize that I am not alone in wanting to explore and own my sexuality as a woman!

The first and most important question I have is as follows:

I can only cum by stimulating the areas around my clitoris. I've tried stimulating it before, but any kind of pressure feels tender and hurts. Likewise, I find that after I cum (when using a vibrator) I have to quickly remove it or it hurts almost immediately. What is going on?!

Dear L,

Dear Betty,

I've been following you for a long while and I've contacted you before concerning a couple different issues and your advice always helped me work it out, I want to thank you for that. But I'm in a new situation.

Dear Betty and Carlin,

I am hoping that you can give me some advice in regards to entering into sex work. I have the opportunity to take up work as an escort in October, but am not sure whether or not to do it. I'm a student that could really use the cash but have never had sex with someone I am not in a relationship with and don't know how I would feel in the moment when it's time to get laid/paid.

Dear Betty,

How come i can give myself back to back orgasms while masturbating but yet i pull away from my partner when he tries pleasing me. It feels awesome but before i can orgasm i pull away or push myself away from him like it feels so good i cant handle it, can you help me?

Dear S,

When we pull away from some form of clitoral stimulation it can mean

1. You have already had a small orgasm and the clitoris needs to calm down for a few moments before continuing.