Dear Dr. Betty,
I am a twenty year old female and have been having sex with my boyfriend for about eight months. I can't seem to reach orgasm from manual stimulation by myself or with him. I even bought a vibrator and used it hoping to experience the big "O."
Dr. Betty,
Dear Betty,
I'm a 22-year-old female in a healthy relationship. I lost my virginity at the age of 18, but I had been achieving clitoral orgasms since the age of 14 on my own. Since having a few different partners, I am unsure whether I have ever had a real vaginal orgasm.
I have never really got much out of sex in the past, but with my current boyfriend everything is great as he always ensures I am fully aroused before sex and makes sure that if he (on the rare occasion) comes first, that I still get mine.
Dear Betty & Carlin
Hi,
I want to know about the safest sexual practices I can use, besides abstention. I am lesbian, single and want to insure I'm not bringing anything home I don't want. Are gloves and dental dams the only option, besides getting everyone tested? Sucking on a dental dam is about a wonderful as sucking on a balloon and if guys think rubbers suck. They should try to use a dental dam.
Any suggestions?
Thanks,
E
Dear E,
Hi Dr Betty!,
Yet another question. Can one contract a UTI by using a dildo for both vaginal and clit stimulation? After doing that (no anal play involved), I got a wicked one that went into my kidney and I'm a little apprehensive about getting off again using that method. (Peeing fire is definitely not fun!)
I know you are not an MD, but thought your priceless experience might be able to shed a little light on things.
M
Dear M,
Dear Dr. Betty,
My wife is a big fan of the Hitachi Magic Wand (thanks to you). After a warm up period with the wand, I am lucky to be able to pleasure her with a large dildo. (How I wish I was that big!) This is a guaranteed orgasm for her - never fails. I really love this ritual as it allows me to enjoy her visually - there is nothing quite so powerful as watching a woman you love enjoying an orgasm. She always takes the dildo out when she reaches orgasm and her vagina pulses repeatedly. It is truly the most powerful thing I have ever seen and I can't get enough of it.
Hi, Betty.
I would first like to say that I LOVE your website. I'm 16 and have always had a lot of sexual curiosity and I love when people, like yourself can speak freely about a topic that has, unfortunately been so down played and criticized by our society. Thank you and Carlin for all you do.
First off, THANK you for living and breathing! This site has helped me realize that I am not alone in wanting to explore and own my sexuality as a woman!
The first and most important question I have is as follows:
I can only cum by stimulating the areas around my clitoris. I've tried stimulating it before, but any kind of pressure feels tender and hurts. Likewise, I find that after I cum (when using a vibrator) I have to quickly remove it or it hurts almost immediately. What is going on?!
Dear L,
