Dear Dr. Betty,

I don't feel comfortable with myself because I am 30 and never had sex. Not even a kiss, not even a relationship with anyone, never been touched by anyone, never touched anyone. Nothing. Never.

Since I was 13, I am perfectly aware of my being lesbian, and I spent a long time feeling guilty about it. I've felt wrong for long. More precisely, I have been feeling guilty, shameful and all that bad stuff about sexuality. About being sexual, you know?

Hi Betty,

I have been an admirer and advocate of your work for many years. I work as a health educator and counselor and have been talking with young women (and men) for over two decades about the importance of masturbation in celebration of self. Your "Selfloving" DVD has been an important part of that necessary education. I have also been teaching an introductory Women's Studies course for the past four years, and have utilized your video each semester.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I just discovered your website this week and have found it so informative and refreshing. I have been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years (I am 22) but have never been able to initiate sex myself. I was date raped during high school and only in the last couple of years have I really started to be more comfortable sexually.

Hello Betty,

I'm a twenty-two year old woman and I have a problem and I was hoping you could push me in the right direction.

I've always had a fairly sexual mind. I know what I like, what sort of things get me off, and so on. I don't have any problem penetrating myself or bringing myself to an orgasm. But I've noticed a different problem that I can't seem to fix by myself.

Hi Betty!

I am a big fan of your Youtube videos, but I still have not yet heard anyone else with my situation. I have had all kinds of orgasms from both clitoral stimulation and penetration (and both of course). However, every time I orgasm during intercourse, I cry. This does not happen when I masturbate.

Hello Betty!

I have been a huge fan of your YouTube videos and website for a long time now and have asked you some questions about masturbation before but this one involves sex. I just turned 16 and have been in a relationship for 9 months now. We had sex in September, when I was 15, and this has caused some distress for me personally. I have severe anxiety and have been going to therapy for issues of being terrified of pregnancy and STD's.

Hey Betty,

I would really like to thank you for this amazing website. I discovered your podcasts/website and fell in love. I am consistently inspired by you and Carlin both!

Hi there,

I suffer from Ankylosing spondylitis and have searched online for help with positioning to help me feel comfortable during sex.

My partner says that she is happy, but I mostly use my hands, mouth and the occasional toy, which I am happy with too and it brings enjoyment and pleasure for my partner. But, I would like to just have regular penetrative sex sometimes, but It can be difficult and uncomfortable and painful for me as I have limited movement in my back, hips and pelvis and no movement in my neck.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I had breast cancer at age 35 and a recurrence at age 41. I am now 44 and living with advanced breast cancer. My problem is that I had my ovaries out because my cancer is sensitive to estrogen. I am therefore in menopause and have developed what my GYN calls "vaginal atrophy," dried, thin vaginal tissue that makes penetration painful.

I also find it difficult to orgasm. My doctors have said that I shouldn't take estrogen treatment because of my cancer. Is there any other way that I can rejuvenate my vagina to make intercourse enjoyable again!

Hello Betty!

It's E. I am 16 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. About a year into our relationship we became sexually active. Exploring different things together and being open with each other. However; last night he gave me oral sex and afterwards I noticed something in his mouth.