Dear Betty,

I am 21 and have never been able to reach climax alone or with a partner. I can ejaculate quite easily though, but i worry that its caused from some kind of pressure build up that triggers my bladder as opposed to arousal, as when it happens I don't feel any closer to orgasm and instead just fear it actually is urine. Can this happen? Is it actually ejaculating that with lead up to orgasm?

Hi Dr. Betty!

I am 22, and I have had an orgasm a few times before (thank you magic wand), but only when I let go and not think about whether I am having an orgasm. Last week I started using the magic wand by spreading my legs with my feet on the floor and I had what really felt like an orgasm, but I am confused – so many women talk about their clitoris being super super sensitive after. Mine isn’t really sensitive, after the orgasm (or what feels like it), the magic wand is still going and technically it feels good but I just want to stop for a moment. Is this unusual?

Dear Betty,

So happy to have found your site! Am having fun and learning a lot...

Have been having an... Issue... And can't find helpful info anywhere. About three to five minutes after sex, i get intense pain from my lower butt to the back of my knees. It's kind of like muscle cramps, but different. Deeper, and no amount of massage helps. Sitting or lying down helps, and I usually fall asleep anyway, but if I have sex during the day I have this pain for hours and can hardly walk.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Do any other women get stomach cramping after sex? What about a funny scent after anal sex?

Dear Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 13 months. Twelve months ago, a former lover texted me asking for sex. My boyfriend was devastated, and has spent the year since that incident brooding (he’s fallen into a serious depression) and, apparently, trying to make me feel bad about my sexual past.

Dear Dr. Betty,

So Betty,

I am young. I've never had sex, or given a hand/blow job or anything. The farthest I've gone is made out. And, I am curious how to make myself seem available to the boys around me. How should I go about showing them that I'm not a prude little girl? But, I don't want to be seen as a whore. I just want to show men that I am willing to preform sex acts.

Thanks, A

Dear A,

Hello Doctor Betty,

My name is H. and I live in the United States. I am of an African descent and as a young child, I was robbed of my sexual pleasures. My clitoris was cut off in the name of tradition and now that I'm older, I'm having problems with my sexuality. I have severe pains during intercourse and a very painful menstural cycle. I am very uncomfortable having sex because I don't want my boyfriend to find out. This is really interfering with my life and I was wondering whether you could help me, please. Thank you.

Hi Dr. Betty,

First off (and I know you've heard this from me a million times before): love the site, love the work you are doing, and you are absolutely my #1 sex guru forever. I turn to you again for advice on a situation I am finding particularly difficult in my life right now.

Hi Dr. Betty,

This is a really embarrassing question, but I sometimes fart when I orgasm. I'm sure it's a fart and not a queef. It happened in front of a partner for the first time recently because my partner was trying really hard to make me orgasm and I felt like I was taking to long, so I tensed my body and stimulated myself with my hands intensely to make myself have a very quick orgasm which was also accompanied by a very loud fart and I was humiliated.