Dear Betty,

So happy to have found your site! Am having fun and learning a lot...

Have been having an... Issue... And can't find helpful info anywhere. About three to five minutes after sex, i get intense pain from my lower butt to the back of my knees. It's kind of like muscle cramps, but different. Deeper, and no amount of massage helps. Sitting or lying down helps, and I usually fall asleep anyway, but if I have sex during the day I have this pain for hours and can hardly walk.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Do any other women get stomach cramping after sex? What about a funny scent after anal sex?

Dear Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 13 months. Twelve months ago, a former lover texted me asking for sex. My boyfriend was devastated, and has spent the year since that incident brooding (he’s fallen into a serious depression) and, apparently, trying to make me feel bad about my sexual past.

Dear Dr. Betty,

So Betty,

I am young. I've never had sex, or given a hand/blow job or anything. The farthest I've gone is made out. And, I am curious how to make myself seem available to the boys around me. How should I go about showing them that I'm not a prude little girl? But, I don't want to be seen as a whore. I just want to show men that I am willing to preform sex acts.

Thanks, A

Dear A,

Hello Doctor Betty,

My name is H. and I live in the United States. I am of an African descent and as a young child, I was robbed of my sexual pleasures. My clitoris was cut off in the name of tradition and now that I'm older, I'm having problems with my sexuality. I have severe pains during intercourse and a very painful menstural cycle. I am very uncomfortable having sex because I don't want my boyfriend to find out. This is really interfering with my life and I was wondering whether you could help me, please. Thank you.

Hi Dr. Betty,

First off (and I know you've heard this from me a million times before): love the site, love the work you are doing, and you are absolutely my #1 sex guru forever. I turn to you again for advice on a situation I am finding particularly difficult in my life right now.

Hi Dr. Betty,

This is a really embarrassing question, but I sometimes fart when I orgasm. I'm sure it's a fart and not a queef. It happened in front of a partner for the first time recently because my partner was trying really hard to make me orgasm and I felt like I was taking to long, so I tensed my body and stimulated myself with my hands intensely to make myself have a very quick orgasm which was also accompanied by a very loud fart and I was humiliated.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I don't feel comfortable with myself because I am 30 and never had sex. Not even a kiss, not even a relationship with anyone, never been touched by anyone, never touched anyone. Nothing. Never.

Since I was 13, I am perfectly aware of my being lesbian, and I spent a long time feeling guilty about it. I've felt wrong for long. More precisely, I have been feeling guilty, shameful and all that bad stuff about sexuality. About being sexual, you know?

Hi Betty,

I have been an admirer and advocate of your work for many years. I work as a health educator and counselor and have been talking with young women (and men) for over two decades about the importance of masturbation in celebration of self. Your "Selfloving" DVD has been an important part of that necessary education. I have also been teaching an introductory Women's Studies course for the past four years, and have utilized your video each semester.