Dear Betty,

First of all, thank you for your work, it helped me to recover my sexual self after psychological trauma during my childhood, which stripped me of my sexuality up until I was 20. I had to teach myself how to masturbate at the age of 19, and slowly I became able to orgasm with partners, and enjoy my casual and non-casual sexual adventures through and through. I find sex to be a fun thing to do, I take care of my needs, I love pleasing my partners, I love to show them and tell them what turns me on, I love fucking and making love, I love to shag men and women equally.

Dear Dr. Betty,

There are many articles to be found on the Internet, which explain the differences between men and woman when it comes to sexuality. Men are like this, while women are like this... to turn on a man you must do THIS, to turn on a woman you must do THIS... But are (we) women really THAT "different" from men? Our genitials "work" in the same ways, don't they? And we have also sexual desire? And we may orgasm as fast as men (if that's even a point!), if done RIGHT. Or?

Hello Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for your great work! Your videos are very fun to watch and so refreshing. They take the seriousness off the whole Subject of Sex. That alone is incredible and helpful.

I (33) have been a pleaser most of my sex life. My orgasms never mattered to too much to me.

I thought in my 20s to be good in bed (all girls want to be considered good in bed) to please the man. The orgasm of the man mattered. Not my own. What a mistake!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have never had much desire for sex. Even as a teenager, I lacked the basic drive for any kind of sexual encounter-with boys or simple masturbation. It impacted my first marriage and now is a factor in my second. I am 57 so I have given up on myself but it is breaking my heart that my daughter is going through the same thing.

Hey Betty,

My names A and I'm wondering if masturbating frequently causes any arousal issues for later on. I know it's rumored that it can happen to men but is it the same for women? For example, if I'm enjoying my "happy time", so to speak, will that affect my ability with my boyfriend say a day later?

Much Thanks,
A

Dear A,

Leonore Tiefer is a friend and colleague who's spent the last decade of her life fighting Big Pharma to keep women safe from the all-consuming pursuit of "pink viagra" - the tiny little pill that can give all women the sex lives of their dreams.

She single-handedly blocked the release of the testosterone patch for women.  They hadn't conducted one safety study and she wasn't going to let them medicalize menopause at the expense of women's lives.

Hi!

I'm 17 years old and I'm from Brazil, so chances are my English is not very good, sorry about that. So I've done sex for the first time last year. At first I didn't know very well what I was doing, but after searching a little (and finding your videos) things got much clearer for me. It took me some time and self discovery to be able to have an orgasm and it felt great. But then I tried having sex after smoking pot and it felt like ten times better.

Hi Betty,

I'm so happy to have found your site (I no longer feel alone!) and am definitely going to give your tips a try regarding my anorgasmia. I was wondering though if you or anyone you know of, run a class in the UK like the group body workshops you have videos of. Also I notice that the video prices are in $, can I still buy these in the UK?

If not a class, could you recommend a therapist in the UK, as I feel like it might be nice to have the support.

I have been a supporter of The Women’s National Health Network for more years than I can remember. Their information is so very valuable.

Hope you're doing great.

This is Fabiola, from Mexico, your Bodysex certification student and lifetime admirer. I write you to address a question that often comes to my mind since I started my journey at Bodysex, and as a sex researcher it marked the focus of everything I do.