Hope you're doing great.
This is Fabiola, from Mexico, your Bodysex certification student and lifetime admirer. I write you to address a question that often comes to my mind since I started my journey at Bodysex, and as a sex researcher it marked the focus of everything I do.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet
I fantasize about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn't do anything for me
What's up with me?
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm 46 years old and peri-menopausal. I'm also on anti-anxiety meds right now. The result? I have absolutely no sex drive!! And when I try to have sex with my husband, I don't get wet like I used to and my orgasms elude me (and I'm used to having multiple orgasms every time!!). A sure fire way for me to cum is for my hubby to eat my pussy. That's how I have all my orgasms.
Hi Betty,
I'm 26-year-old, and English is not my mother tongue, so forgive me for any mistakes in writing
I am writing you because I have a problem that I don't know how to identify and I don't know how to solve.
Puzzle's pieces (it took me one hour to finish this!)
Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are naturally angry for not being taught how to experience sexual pleasure in the first place while our male partners ejaculate every time. It’s no wonder you’re mad, confused and wondering “What wrong with me?”
Hi Betty!
So grateful to have your channel on YouTube, it has been really helpful and healing for me to watch. I wanted to ask you my own question about my special sex life!
Dr. Dodson,
A few years ago, you wrote
"I would agree with the Orthodox Jews on this one point. . . .men can't do anything but have sexual intercourse with their wives, while she can do anything like masturbate, use vibes, dildos, porn anything at all. It a reverse double standard in a way. The female sex drive far exceeds that of the male but it remains one of the best kept secrets thanks to our sexual double standard."
Dear Betty,
As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him.
As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my age group as a young adult I cried. Many years later with grown children and I'm menopausal now I find if I am not active my vagina closes up. I have a partner now and after a long time of celibacy he re-opened me and it was very painful.
