Hello Betty and Carlin,

Thank you for your great work! Your videos are very fun to watch and so refreshing. They take the seriousness off the whole Subject of Sex. That alone is incredible and helpful.

I (33) have been a pleaser most of my sex life. My orgasms never mattered to too much to me.

I thought in my 20s to be good in bed (all girls want to be considered good in bed) to please the man. The orgasm of the man mattered. Not my own. What a mistake!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have no idea how to fantasize. Ive been trying and nothing comes to mind. Any ideas how to ? One thing that turns me on and leads to orgasm is watching porn where a woman with large breasts bouncing and hearing her "have pleasure". I cant orgasm without porn like I use to when i was younger.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have never had much desire for sex. Even as a teenager, I lacked the basic drive for any kind of sexual encounter-with boys or simple masturbation. It impacted my first marriage and now is a factor in my second. I am 57 so I have given up on myself but it is breaking my heart that my daughter is going through the same thing.

Hey Betty,

My names A and I'm wondering if masturbating frequently causes any arousal issues for later on. I know it's rumored that it can happen to men but is it the same for women? For example, if I'm enjoying my "happy time", so to speak, will that affect my ability with my boyfriend say a day later?

Much Thanks,
A

Dear A,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 20 years old and I have been doing the whole crossing my legs method of masturbation for a few years now. Like many others I discovered this method completely by accident as a child without even really understanding what I was doing. Climbing the rope in gym or perhaps my history of riding horses made me realize "hey that feels pretty good!"

Hi Betty,

I've been in the same relationship since I was 18. I'm 35 and just had my first clit orgasm on my own. Sex with my partner is sooo boring. I've tried all kinds of ways to liven it up. He prefers showers with oral pleasure. To top it off he is very small and my g spot is abnormally deep.

He doesn't like toys which only leave me foreplay which last just as long as sex: 1.5 mins. We have a teen so opportunities are even more limited. At this point he feels like a brother not a lover.

Dear B + C,

I really needed to send this email, as Betty's voice has been haunting my sexual experiences the last couple weeks :)

Betty, I have taken your advice to heart, and have been seeking out more intention sexual experiences and partners, and I have been learning a lot- about others and more importantly, myself....

But what keeps coming up for me in almost EVERY experience, even with woman... is the idea of this whole approach being centered around the Male Sexual Response model!!!! I see it so clearly now.

Dearest Betty,

I know this is nothing you haven't heard before, but: You changed my life!!!!!

I have a very happy update to share with you after our session (and I am also sharing it with all of my close friends!):

Last night I had my very first ever in my life fully satisfying orgasm!!!!!

Just to refresh you, since I know you meet and talk to many, many women - I am 37 and had only ever masturbated by crossing my legs and pulsing before I went to visit you.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Ever since I was young I always liked to touch on my body or look at myself in mirrors. Around the age of 9, I started having fantasies about females masturbating and stuff and when I woke up my hand would be in my pants on my clit. I'm 20 now and still have these dreams or get aroused by the dreams but now I wake up with my fingers actually inside me.

Hi Betty,

So I am 25 years old and have been married to the love of my life. We've been married for less than 3 months and have really and desperately tried having sex. There are so many levels to this issue. I think I may have vaginismus that makes my muscles contract, which I have been experiencing.