I'm ahead of you by 10 years and if I waited to feel "turned on" or "sexually aroused" my orgasms would be nearly non-existent.

You didn't mention using a lubricant which is your number one sex toy.

It's possible that you are having small orgasms and are unable to recognize them.

How you masturbate is what you want to incorporate into your partner sex.

It's been my experience that having sex with another person outside a relationship will only enhance it if it's good or expose all the things that are wrong with the relationship

My first genital Herpes outbreak was in the seventies. If you didn't have Herpes back then, it meant you weren't having sex.

Your primary sex organ is your clitoris.

I suggest you consider what a guy would think if he had a large penis.

He'll probably grow out of it. I

The key is to use plenty of lube and gradually work the foreskin back manually without forcing it.