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I'm a 37 year old female who is recovering from a complete (including the ovaries) hysterectomy. I've not had sex yet but I'm worried about a decrease in sexual desire and the inability to get wet when I am in the throes. What can I do now on my own to insure that I can have great partner sex? Should I take vitamins? Are there exercises? Help.
A
Dear A,

Dear Dr. Betty,
I will be turning 50 in a few weeks. I've had 3 children whom I breast fed for a total of 8 years. The last few years I have gained & lost 30- 40 lbs. several times. Most recently I have lost the weight. I am having a difficult time accepting my sagging & loose skinned breasts. I just had a self -loving experience that included a wonderful orgasm. I had a mirror set up in front of me.

Dear Dr. Betty,
Why is it that my sex life becomes so much more physically satisfying when I'm pregnant? My breasts actually become erogenous zones that I want my husband to play with and I enjoy really strong, powerful, intense, wonderful, screaming orgasms! (Lucky me!) This is my fourth baby, and we are done! How do I recreate these physical conditions/sensations after I deliver?
I'd really like to keep this intensity and physical enjoyment. Note: Non-pregnant sex is wonderful, but pregnant sex is just soooooo much better.
Thanks!
JD

Hello:
I have been admiring your site for years, but when I got the nerve to ask one of many hard questions for my wife's stroke she had in september of 2008. My question is if a woman has had a CVA or stroke, what happened to her sexuality? Since she has been home we have tried many times to have sex, but she does come close to enjoying like she did before.

HI,,DR,
My penis in erection size is 4.2 inches,,and im worried of it,,,so plz tell me is this normal size and sometimes i experience wet dreams a lot??? why this happens...plz tel me...
Dear JC,

Dear Dr. Betty,
A Private Session with a Victim of Female Genital Mutilation

How can I Just Lose Myself in Pleasure?

Can You Have Too Much Sex?

Can't Orgasm Since Menopause

My Pussy Is Too Tight!

Hi Betty,
I'm a 21 year old who has never had sex. It's not that I haven't tried. But my vagina is so tight that my boyfriend can't penetrate me. I first tried having sex when I was 17 with my boyfriend at that time. We were both inexperienced and after trying various positions, we finally gave up because I was starting to get sore.
Why are Sex Work and Feminism Mutually Exclusive?

Dear Miss Betty:
March 1st is the anniversary of my first orgasm and I felt it time to thank you for your role in that. After stumbling upon your website two years ago in dire sexual frustration over my "inability" to orgasm, I was inspired by the empowering nature of the material you and Grant have included and proceeded to lay down to enjoy my own sexual responses. Before I knew it - fireworks! I wept and released years' worth of inadequacy.
Betty's Response to the Vagina Monologues

The first time I saw The Vagina Monologues was in 1996 when it was off, off, off Broadway. Friends of mine who'd seen the play had alerted me that the author and sole performer, Eve Ensler, mentioned my workshops. That evening I sat in a small theater listening to a charming young woman who talked about my Women's Sexuality Workshops with a distorted view of what I'd been doing for over twenty-five years. She called it "The Vagina Workshop." Never in my wildest nightmare would I have ever considered using the word vagina to describe the work I'd been doing.
My Wife Feels Guilty Looking at Porn

Dear Betty,
I love to look at porn. My wife likes to look at times too but feels guilty. We feel like it is a sin, but enjoy it so much. Do you think porn can ruin a marriage? If I look at porn I feel so guilty. I just love my wife and family so much. Sometimes when my wife finds out I look at porn she is so hurt. Why do men struggle with porn so much. I wish I could just not look at it. Do a lot of men struggle with this? -- J
Dear J,
Female Ejaculation Letters

Hi Betty,
I recently read your book Sex for One, borrowed from a friend who was making a documentary about female masturbation. In any case, I am a 21 year-old student who just started exploring my body very recently (on my own that is) and I have come across many interesting things.
For one, it seems that I am an ejaculator. At first, like every other woman, I figured I had peed on myself. But I smelled and checked and made sure it wasn't pee. So the only logical conclusion was ejaculation (and a rather large amount of it too).
Can a Guy Tell You're a Virgin?

Hi there Dr. Betty,
I'm in my mid 20's & for various reasons I'm still a virgin. This may sound like a stupid question but would a guy be able to tell I was a virgin when I have sex for the first time? Would it be obvious or am I better off telling him - being a virgin in your mid 20's makes you seem a bit like an anti social freak.
Thanks, D
Dear D,