We Are All Quite Queer

It wasn't until 1972 that the American Medical Association declared masturbation a normal sexual activity.

Could Past Sexual Abuse Keep Me from Orgasming?

Dr. Betty,

I am a 43 year old woman, and have been married to the same man for 21 years (ok...so maybe that is my problem - not enough variety). My problem is I have never been able to experience an orgasm with a partner. I had several other partners before my husband, and it just doesn't happen for me. I was sexually abused by my grandfather when I was a child, and I don't know if that has something to do with it.

Am I the Only Woman Who Has Rape Fantasies?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I know it may not be normal...I feel like a pervert sometimes, but sometimes I fantasize about being raped. Is that wrong? I imagine that a handsome guy just grabs me and throws me on the ground/ a bed and holds me down, attacking me from behind, and I beg him to stop but he doesn't...Am I wrong for having those thoughts? Is that perverted?