Dear Dr. Betty,

Dr. Betty,

I am a 43 year old woman, and have been married to the same man for 21 years (ok...so maybe that is my problem - not enough variety). My problem is I have never been able to experience an orgasm with a partner. I had several other partners before my husband, and it just doesn't happen for me. I was sexually abused by my grandfather when I was a child, and I don't know if that has something to do with it.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I know it may not be normal...I feel like a pervert sometimes, but sometimes I fantasize about being raped. Is that wrong? I imagine that a handsome guy just grabs me and throws me on the ground/ a bed and holds me down, attacking me from behind, and I beg him to stop but he doesn't...Am I wrong for having those thoughts? Is that perverted?

Dear Dr. Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have this crazy fantasy of masturbating while I watch my girl suck off another guy. Is this wrong? How can I bring up this subject with her?

Dear T,

No it's not wrong to have this fantasy. In fact it's quite common. Just don't expect your girl friend to go for it instantly. It's your fantasy not hers. You bring it up just like you did with me. Keep it light-hearted and humorous. No pressure.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 22 and female-bodied, currently dating a 20 year old male. With my current partner and past male partners, I've experienced a bizarre, unpleasant sensation during vaginal intercourse any time my partner's penis hits my cervix. I wouldn't describe it as painful, but definitely not a feeling that I enjoy. I've recently discovered that this is due to an unusually retroverted uterus - my gynecologist tells me that my uterus has not only an extreme backward tilt, but also sits distinctly to the left side of my body.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My problem is something on which I've done a lot of internet research, and I've yet to find a satisfying answer to my problem. I began attempting masturbation (with my fingers) at the age of 13, and had no orgasms. It felt nice, but I never climaxed. Manipulation of the clitoris was not satisfying to completion, nor was vaginal fingering. When I was 18, I bought a vibrator, but it did not make me come, the incessant buzzing only made me numb. Reluctant to lose my virginity to a fake penis, I waited until I was 23, got fed up, and bought a dong.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a question! I'm 23 years old and live with my fiance. My sex drive is through the roof and to my fiance he almost thinks its like a burden. He hasn't actually said that, but he can always tell when I'm in the mood and he like rolls over and goes to sleep. He's told me before that his friends at work wished that their wives were in the mood as much as I am. So I don't really see it as being a bad thing. Our sex life isn't boring at all, but it just seems like lately he's done a lot of the roll over and fall asleep bit.

Dearest Betty,

Thank you both for your openness and fabulosity ;)

I suppose I am just in a time of "not knowing what to do next" with regards to my sexuality in my life, and I just need a little direction. Thanks in advance for reading my lengthy story!