Yesterday I received an email from Amy Jo, a sister sex educator with the alarming news that Kegel exercises were not beneficial but actually detrimental. What?

Pelvic floor muscle awareness has been a big part of my teaching women about orgasms with me repeating: "Squeeze and release" while my Vaginal Barbell is inside my client's vagina while she stimulates her clitoris with a vibrator. The Barbell was designed as a resistance device for exercising these muscles (it also doubles as a great dildo).

I fully understand that teaching is repetition. So again I repeat: the clitoral body is the primary source of orgasm whether it's stimulated externally, internally, or both at the same time. I prefer both. Once a woman understands she can have both clitoral stimulation with vaginal penetration, it ends this discussion.

Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.