Hi Dr. Betty!

I am 22, and I have had an orgasm a few times before (thank you magic wand), but only when I let go and not think about whether I am having an orgasm. Last week I started using the magic wand by spreading my legs with my feet on the floor and I had what really felt like an orgasm, but I am confused – so many women talk about their clitoris being super super sensitive after. Mine isn’t really sensitive, after the orgasm (or what feels like it), the magic wand is still going and technically it feels good but I just want to stop for a moment. Is this unusual?

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a condition called Hidradenitis suppurativa and it causes bumps on my groin area that then turn into a sort of keloid thing. I'm a 20 yr old female and i would like to lose my virginity but the fear of explaining this to a 20yr old boy is sooo scary.

I don't have a boyfriend or anyone in particular that id like to lose my virginity to but how do i even begin to approach this with a person? id really like to get oral sex but i fear they'll think its because I'm dirty.

Hi Dr. Betty,

A couple years ago I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes. My Girlfriend is informed about this, and we are very open about it. In an attempt to not spread this to her, She does not perform Oral sex on me. The thing is, that she told me she has a hard time getting close to me sexually because of this, She wants to and I want her to but we do not want to spread it.

Hi Betty.

I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is 22. I have only ever had orgasms from the clitoris and never from the g-spot. I really want to be able to have one and know what it feels like. My boyfriend says he has been able to give them to all his other sexual partners but just not me. Is there something wrong?

Thank you

Dear J,

Hello Betty and Carlin.

This is kind of hard to ask, hard to put into words on a computer screen with out feeling kind of foolish, but I am asking because I'd like the advise of some one who might be able to help or know where I can get help.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have had a weird white/ light yellow pudding-like discharge accompanied by an unpleasant smell - I can't describe it except nauseating - on and off for over a year. I have no itching burning etc. Sometimes when I'm on the toilet I can actually hear it coming out of me. What do you think this is? Are there o.t.c. Remedies (I have no insurance)?

Thanks. J

Dear J,

Dear Betty,

So happy to have found your site! Am having fun and learning a lot...

Have been having an... Issue... And can't find helpful info anywhere. About three to five minutes after sex, i get intense pain from my lower butt to the back of my knees. It's kind of like muscle cramps, but different. Deeper, and no amount of massage helps. Sitting or lying down helps, and I usually fall asleep anyway, but if I have sex during the day I have this pain for hours and can hardly walk.

Hi Betty,

First I want to say how amazing you and Carlin are. You've changed my life and im so happy I found out about you guys while im so young because you've probably saved me lots of self hate and embarrassment. (im 19 but iv been studying you and your teachings since i was 18) You've taught me to be proud of myself, my body and my sexuality and now i have an open and healthy relationship with sex and my sexual partners and im not afraid to ask for what i want!

Dear Betty,

I am a 24 year old woman and I've been masturbating since i was 7-8 and i love it!! best thing god created for men and women. anyways I've been wondering when i masturbate i always think of other women in my sexual fantasies when I'm doing it. Does this mean that I could be a lesbian? (I am a straight woman). I would love to hear your advice.

thanks,

F

Dear F,

Dear Betty,

Thank you for this site. I've been wanting to talk to someone about this issue. I was very late coming to masturbation....45 years old before I had my first orgasm. It happened with the magic wand and I quickly became addicted. I have never had much luck coming in any other way so have used it almost exclusively over the years...many of those years as a single woman.