Dear Betty,

As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him.

As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my age group as a young adult I cried. Many years later with grown children and I'm menopausal now I find if I am not active my vagina closes up. I have a partner now and after a long time of celibacy he re-opened me and it was very painful.

I always recommend clitoral stimulation to build sexual interest before any vaginal penetration takes place if you want penetration to feel good.

Dear Dr. Betty,

When I was quite young I started masturbating by crossing my legs and then rubbing my thighs. At that time, I didn't knew at all what it is, but since I used to like it I continued doing it. I used to come within minutes. now when I try to masturbate I am not able to have an orgasm.

I feel a pleasant pressure but that's it..Nothing more than that.my bf touched me, used to finger me often but it was of no use. I wanted to know if this cross legged rubbing has affected my sexual life? Will I will be able to have an orgasm.?

Dear Dr. Betty Hello,

I’m 16 years old by now and I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. We have had sex by all this time and I have always experienced the same when he penetrates me, anything. Before penetration we normally masturbate each other and he usually plays with my clitoris, this gives me pleasure but at the same time I get super stressed and I just can think about him stopping masturbating me.

Discovering the beauty of my vulva dramatically changed my life, especially when it came to being sexually intimate with a partner.

I recently witnessed a young woman have an incredibly easy abortion by taking several pills.

You would get more out of masturbation by doing it less and spending more time "edging" or holding off your orgasm.

All genitals feel more sensitive when you apply lubricant especially oil. Never tough a clitoris with a dry hand.

Creating a context where you can take back control can be healing.

Your vagina will gradually change as the muscles are slowly stretched.