Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 54 and a blowjob virgin.

I've tried twice-gagged the first time and the second time was ok but it really makes me uncomfortable and i know my new b/f really likes it; I dont know how to tell him i don't know how to do it. I've seen a couple of your youtube videos, but since we haven't even had regular sex yet after 4 months due to a back injury of his, I don't feel quite ready to attempt an inexperienced BJ and be embarassed etc. he does his best to pleasure me and i him but i want the true lovemaking experience first.

Hello Betty,

You and Carlin made a video response to a submission I made quite some time ago about not being able to take off my bra during sex (titled "I simply can't take off my bra during sex"). I have made some progress but would like to inquire further about specific steps I should take in un-learning my extremely negative attitude towards my chest.

Dear Betty,

First off… Thank you D&R! A big Thank you to all the bloggers of D&R for helping me become the sexual goddess I “feel” I am today. Me 1st Dammit!

In search on my “lost orgasm”, I stumbled across your website about 3-1/2 years ago and it has changed my life. I am currently 8 months separated from a 16 year marriage, I began to express myself and needs more in the bedroom and he became offended by this, so he constantly
questioned my wants and started with false accusations of infidelity.

Hi Dr. Betty,

Oh, where to begin. At 27 years old, I have sort of given up on myself. I have been sexually active for about a decade and have been in loving relationships with different partners. I consider myself quite a sexual person, comfortable with my sexuality, etc. But I am unable to climax without a vibrator (both on my own and with a partner). I originally learned to orgasm at a young age using a make-shift vibrator. Now, when I try to touch myself without a vibrator I either a) find it too intense (directly on the clitoris) or quite dull (around the clitoris).

Hey Betty,

I would really like to thank you for this amazing website. I discovered your podcasts/website and fell in love. I am consistently inspired by you and Carlin both!

Hello Dr. Betty

I spoke to you about a week ago, many thanks for your answers they helped me.

And also would like to ask a further few questions, I have been suffering a feeling of great pain, I badly need to have sexual intercourse, but I haven't had any luck with finding a girlfriend and the two married women I have had sex with claim it was a one time thing. I need a stable girl to have sex with (I have thought about a prostitute but to me that feels like abusing the woman, I couldn't live with the guilt!).

Hi Betty,

Using the advise from your videos and site I was able to give my partner an orgasm like she'd never experienced before. The look on her face was priceless. A woman truly enjoying herself is very sexy.

Dear Betty,

First of all, thanks for the amazing resources you have here! For the first time since I started trying to understand my own orgasms–it's been about four years!–I found validation for my own experiences. As it turns out, I've been giving myself pressure orgasms since I was young, and I, like others who have submitted questions, was worried that I had "ruined" my clitoris. After reading your techniques and tips I feel confident that I can wean myself off the pressure orgasm and learn some new tricks, and hopefully even orgasm with a partner.

Hello Betty,

i think you are amazing!! Anyway, i was watching a video and you mentioned gag reflex. Some days i'm a champ no gagging and others its bad. Just wondering how i could stop that completely. I know practice could help. Also I've never been able to deep throat and have the guy cum straight down it. Once it happened and i nearly choked to death Hahaha.. Would just like to know your thoughts.

Thanks so much A

Dear A,