Dear Betty

I'm a divorced mom and have 2 sons aged 6 and 8. I wanted to ask your advise on age appropriate sexual education material. Their dad is a very religious Jew and my kids go to a very orthodox school. Boys and girls are in separate classes from grade 0, and from a religious jewish perspective the aim is to keep boys and girls not touching until after marriage, and ejaculation outside of a vagina is seen as a BIG NO NO!

Hi,

I've been very worried lately. About two or three weeks ago, a guy stimulated " fingered me" but before any of that, I have shaved and, after he did it the next day and day after. I shaved when I felt hair down there.

Now a couple days before my period I got this little pink bump, on the outta lip of my vagina where I had shaved. it doesn't really hurt. I'm scared I might have a std. Btw I'm a virgin too so I'm so scared.

Dear A,

Hello Betty!

I have been a huge fan of your YouTube videos and website for a long time now and have asked you some questions about masturbation before but this one involves sex. I just turned 16 and have been in a relationship for 9 months now. We had sex in September, when I was 15, and this has caused some distress for me personally. I have severe anxiety and have been going to therapy for issues of being terrified of pregnancy and STD's.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 54 and a blowjob virgin.

I've tried twice-gagged the first time and the second time was ok but it really makes me uncomfortable and i know my new b/f really likes it; I dont know how to tell him i don't know how to do it. I've seen a couple of your youtube videos, but since we haven't even had regular sex yet after 4 months due to a back injury of his, I don't feel quite ready to attempt an inexperienced BJ and be embarassed etc. he does his best to pleasure me and i him but i want the true lovemaking experience first.

Hello Betty,

You and Carlin made a video response to a submission I made quite some time ago about not being able to take off my bra during sex (titled "I simply can't take off my bra during sex"). I have made some progress but would like to inquire further about specific steps I should take in un-learning my extremely negative attitude towards my chest.

Dear Betty,

First off… Thank you D&R! A big Thank you to all the bloggers of D&R for helping me become the sexual goddess I “feel” I am today. Me 1st Dammit!

In search on my “lost orgasm”, I stumbled across your website about 3-1/2 years ago and it has changed my life. I am currently 8 months separated from a 16 year marriage, I began to express myself and needs more in the bedroom and he became offended by this, so he constantly
questioned my wants and started with false accusations of infidelity.

Hi Dr. Betty,

Oh, where to begin. At 27 years old, I have sort of given up on myself. I have been sexually active for about a decade and have been in loving relationships with different partners. I consider myself quite a sexual person, comfortable with my sexuality, etc. But I am unable to climax without a vibrator (both on my own and with a partner). I originally learned to orgasm at a young age using a make-shift vibrator. Now, when I try to touch myself without a vibrator I either a) find it too intense (directly on the clitoris) or quite dull (around the clitoris).

Hey Betty,

I would really like to thank you for this amazing website. I discovered your podcasts/website and fell in love. I am consistently inspired by you and Carlin both!

Hello Dr. Betty

I spoke to you about a week ago, many thanks for your answers they helped me.

And also would like to ask a further few questions, I have been suffering a feeling of great pain, I badly need to have sexual intercourse, but I haven't had any luck with finding a girlfriend and the two married women I have had sex with claim it was a one time thing. I need a stable girl to have sex with (I have thought about a prostitute but to me that feels like abusing the woman, I couldn't live with the guilt!).