Dear Betty,

Thank you for this site. I've been wanting to talk to someone about this issue. I was very late coming to masturbation....45 years old before I had my first orgasm. It happened with the magic wand and I quickly became addicted. I have never had much luck coming in any other way so have used it almost exclusively over the years...many of those years as a single woman.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My spouse of 38 years has developed a wound on her clitoris that actually bleeds. We engage in mutual masturbation on a weekly basis, especially since my prostatectomy for prostate cancer. Since reading your information on masturbation, she has been using the Hitachi magic wand exclusively.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My penis is 4.5 inches long and i want to give my wife something more. we have used several extensions but they fall off and do not work good. would it be weird if i use a strap on?

Dear J,

Just so you know, your penis is within the average range. Again this is where porn sends out the wrong message the same as it does for women.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 20 years old, I've been active since I was 15, my first partner was as well a virgin and was my so call "first love" sex was great I felt so arroused and satisfied. We broke everything off about two years ago...since Ive had about 4 partners and have not felt the same since...until my recent one....

Hi,

First I would like to say that I am so happy I discovered your site! I have learned so much and am becoming far more comfortable with myself. As for my question...When I was about 13 I got the idea to use my electric toothbrush to masturbate. It was amazing and I have used it since (I'm 20). Outside of laying under the shower faucet this is the only way I have ever had an orgasm. I'm very concerned that masturbating with the electric toothbrush may have damaged my clitoris and made me less sensitive there.

Hi Betty

Thank you sooooo much for your advice! My Mystic wand arrived today and I am pleased to say I have had my first orgasm! I have to say though, i was a bit disappointed.

It wasn't very intense - and it took 45 mins to get there! I am hoping it will get quicker and easier to climax the more I use this new toy. Can you just tell me....should I be moving this wand around for best results or keep in one place? Not sure how to use exactly!

Thank you Betty :)

S

Good News!

Dr. Betty,

dear betty,

first of all, thanks so much for your website. since i discovered it i started feeling so much better and adventurous about my sex life. however, there is one question that is still unsatisfied. as some of the other women that wrote you i have problems with getting wet (enough) during sex. when i had my boyfriend we eventually started using lube and it was great.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have been an avid follower of DodsonAndRoss for a couple of years. I would love to say that the work you and Carlin are doing spreads so much good into the world that it is beyond words!  I have been sexually active for about 6 months with my lovely boyfriend and we have been using condoms for most of that time.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 16 and I really want a vibrator. But you can't enter sex shops if you're a minor and I can't order online so I've been thinking of just telling my mom I masturbate and getting her to get one for me. Even if she says no, she can't stop me from masturbating. It'll just be a bit awkward between us for a while. How do I start a conversation about this and convince her to get me one?

Dear D,