Dear Betty,

I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?

Hi!

Hi Dr. Betty,

A couple years ago I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes. My Girlfriend is informed about this, and we are very open about it. In an attempt to not spread this to her, She does not perform Oral sex on me. The thing is, that she told me she has a hard time getting close to me sexually because of this, She wants to and I want her to but we do not want to spread it.

Dear Dr. Betty,

My boyfriend has been performing oral sex on me for quite some time. It feels great every time he does it however, it seems that right before I am about to orgasm whatever he does just tickles. We have been working on it but can't figure out a way to stop the intense tickling. I have never orgasmed before so could I actually be coming and not knowing it?

Thanks for your help,
A

Dear A,

Dear Betty and Carlin,

First, thank you so much for you work! You helped me finally accept myself as a sexual being. You're a great example of how beautiful women are when they're strong and sexually empowered. When I grow up, I want to be just like you two! ;-)

Dr. Betty,

Hi,
I've never been a big fan of oral sex, but my current boyfriend really seems to like it so I want to get better at it. Problem is, I cannot seem to "hide" my teeth well and hurt him. He is very thick, and I do not have a big mouth. Please give me as many tricks as you can!!!

Thanks!

Dear M,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a very loving and attentive boyfriend who has just one unfortunate flaw...oral sex. He gives it the old college try but, he is not very good at it. While I applaud his effort unfortunately my clit is not pleased. I have tried my best to guide him but, it does not work. He feels terrible about it and I try my best to console him.

Is there anything that I can refer him to help him adopt a better technique?

Dear M,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend and I have been engaging in oral sex for the whole of our relationship. My problem is that when i give him a blowjob and he cums in my mouth i just can't swallow.

Hi Betty,