My first genital Herpes outbreak was in the seventies. If you didn't have Herpes back then, it meant you weren't having sex.

Dear Dr. Betty,

Like most men, I resort to porn videos for entertainment. While watching an unusually attractive girl strip, I was shocked when it turned out her genitals were completely masculine. I mean, I only wish I had a set like hers!

The effect of this was to get me so sexually excited that I masturbated. Does this prove I am part gay?

RD

Dear R,

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are very open to each other about sex and our fantasies. He told me that before we met he had sex with a transvestite. From what I understand it was a man in women's clothes, pre-op, and my boyfriend says that this guy looked so much like a women that he was ok with it. All that happened was he fucked the guy in the ass and left after he came.

Hello Betty.

I recently discovered your (words cannot describe, but I'll try) incredibly helpful and wonderful site (my favorite aspect so far has gotta be your video podcasts with carlin), I JUST got an account about ten minutes ago, and I've built up the courage to ask you a question. I think I need to explain my sexual history, though, to get an "educated" response. My current sexual partner is my only ever sexual partner.

Kink is normal, natural, necessary. Relax, play, enjoy.

Creating a context where you can take back control can be healing.