Hello!

First of all: this is a wonderful page and I already read and found a lot of really helpful things.

Hi there!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 20 year old engineering student. For the last two years I have been unable to orgasm when having sex or mutually masturbating with my lover. I can only orgasm alone. This has taken a negative toll on my lover's self-esteem. Lately I have wanted sex less despite having just acquired our own space to play, and he told me that he is now feeling unloved. I think I am turning myself off, before and during sex, with my body image and an unhealthy sexual/romantic upbringing. I just do not know where to start tackling these issues.

Below is a recent question I received from a young woman.  I'm noticing that more and more women want to know "how can I stop ejaculating?"  So I asked some of my friends - the experts - to weigh in:

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, sorry if my English is bad, my native language is Spanish. Ok, on with it.

Dear doctor Betty,

As you can see, the reason I'm sending this message is because I'm afraid of having sex and I would really appreciate a wise advise right now.

Dear Dr. Betty,

I had sex for the first time and I have a few questions.

He tried to please me, I found it surprising how willing he was at going down on me. In my head guys usually don't like that. He was inexperienced, knew where things were, but not too experienced. He seemed like he really wanted to stimulate the g-spot. I have never on my own experienced one of those orgasms, my hand usually gives up way before getting there. And it doesn't feel all that great, the clitoris is a lot more sensitive.

Hi Betty,

I'm 38 years old and I have noticed in the last few years that intercourse has become less stimulating and it is more difficult for me to orgasm when it never was before. I have read your site and I was happy to discover that I learned the rock and roll method to orgasm all on my own and it worked like a charm until about 3 years ago, when I began to need direct stimulation to my clit to get me off.

Hi Dr Betty,

Dear Dr. Betty,

My bf and I are attempting to have anal sex. I've tried explaining to him that prepping is needed ahead of time. The only thing is he's going by what someone else told him and that is to enter all the way in to get the pain done and over with.

He's length is 6 and a half inches, and he's girth is 5 and a half inches. What would you suggest on how to go about this? Any advice would be much appreciated.

Dear H,