It is said that the refractory period after a man ejaculates is around 15 to 30 minutes.
It’s such a pleasure to be with a man who is self-assured— confident in his ability to get an erection and to keep his erection long enough to enjoy the dance of sexual love.
You have an unusual masturbation technique that may or may not translate into penis/vagina sex.
Why can't you enjoy your orgasm and when he wants to come either one of you do manual sex or you could finish him off with oral sex.
First get tuned into you pelvic floor muscle and begin to work it out.
The key is to use plenty of lube and gradually work the foreskin back manually without forcing it which is what happened during your first vaginal penetration.
For the most part, this is considered normal.